I know this is an old thread but I am hoping for some advice.
I am 31 and my bf is 46. We have been together 7 months. The first couple months of us being together, we would have sex 1-2 times a week. I was okay with this amount of sex. The last 4 months have been very sexless. We have had sex only twice in the past 4 months and we are going on month 2 with absolutely no sex. It is starting to make me feel horrible about myself like I am not attractive to him. He tries to reassure me that he finds me attractive, but makes no effort to lead this reassurance to the bedroom. I started thinking that maybe he is not a sexual person... which I felt like I maybe could accept. Well, I decided to pry in his phone. I found some very naughty pics of his ex's "personal area" and porn he had been looking up. He sleeps on the couch and doesn't sleep in the bedroom with me. The past two nights he has slept in the bedroom with me. But he has made no attempt to physically connect with me. He makes sure to lay down not facing me. He gives me absolutely no opportunity to touch him or even make a move. When I try to talk about our intimacy issues, he tells me that sex is the last thing on his mind right now (because of stress with his kids). This man says that he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me and showers me in expensive gifts. But I am not the type of girl to be bought.... I am a very loving and affectionate person... and I can't even share that with him.
What do I do? I know I do love him. I am just unsure I can carry on with no intimacy and affection....
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Dear Anon,
I know this is an old thread but I am hoping for some advice.
I am 31 and my bf is 46. We have been together 7 months. The first couple months of us being together, we would have sex 1-2 times a week. I was okay with this amount of sex. The last 4 months have been very sexless. We have had sex only twice in the past 4 months and we are going on month 2 with absolutely no sex. It is starting to make me feel horrible about myself like I am not attractive to him. He tries to reassure me that he finds me attractive, but makes no effort to lead this reassurance to the bedroom. I started thinking that maybe he is not a sexual person... which I felt like I maybe could accept. Well, I decided to pry in his phone. I found some very naughty pics of his ex's "personal area" and porn he had been looking up. He sleeps on the couch and doesn't sleep in the bedroom with me. The past two nights he has slept in the bedroom with me. But he has made no attempt to physically connect with me. He makes sure to lay down not facing me. He gives me absolutely no opportunity to touch him or even make a move. When I try to talk about our intimacy issues, he tells me that sex is the last thing on his mind right now (because of stress with his kids). This man says that he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me and showers me in expensive gifts. But I am not the type of girl to be bought.... I am a very loving and affectionate person... and I can't even share that with him.
What do I do? I know I do love him. I am just unsure I can carry on with no intimacy and affection....
May 31, 2017 - 12:34amThis Comment
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