After spending 20 years in such a relationship, one in which we were intensely sexual in the beginning an ending up by being a purely platonic relationship, and one in which I dearly love my husband, I can only say I wish I had left, and I still think I probably should. Because, my friend, it's the sex that gives the sweetness to a marriage, and without it, you are only rooming with a good friend. Sex prompts the brain to flood a person's body with oxytocin, a hormone which makes us feel good and makes us feel love. Spend enough years without intimacy, and there is only platonic love. You don't have to be married to a man to be his friend, or to love him that way. Whatever fine qualities you may admire in him, some other man has those same qualities, and also the ability to love you. So, no, I don't have any other advice, besides, leave him.
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After spending 20 years in such a relationship, one in which we were intensely sexual in the beginning an ending up by being a purely platonic relationship, and one in which I dearly love my husband, I can only say I wish I had left, and I still think I probably should. Because, my friend, it's the sex that gives the sweetness to a marriage, and without it, you are only rooming with a good friend. Sex prompts the brain to flood a person's body with oxytocin, a hormone which makes us feel good and makes us feel love. Spend enough years without intimacy, and there is only platonic love. You don't have to be married to a man to be his friend, or to love him that way. Whatever fine qualities you may admire in him, some other man has those same qualities, and also the ability to love you. So, no, I don't have any other advice, besides, leave him.
December 1, 2017 - 2:56amThis Comment
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