Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
I'd love to give you some information to help you make sense of your sexual desires.
We should start with addressing your past molestation. When you were molested you were not in control. The molester had total control of your body without you giving them that permission. This violation effects your phycology about sex and manifests itself in the desires you find yourself having now. Your sexual desires and fantasies (whether consciously or unconsciously) from a place of wanting to take control of your sexuality again. This in a pattern in women who have been molested.
There is also a pattern of manipulating someone into having a relationship in order to get sex. This is also a control method to sort of take back what was lost when molested.
Most people who experience what you are feeling do not understand where it is coming from. I'm sensing that's how you feel. So, I want to let you know that you are not crazy. But your phycology towards sex has been damaged because you were molested.
I highly suggest that you seek healing and therapy so that you can have healthy sexual relationships in the future. Healing starts by speaking out. The person who molested you should not get away with it! So the first step in telling someone you trust about what happened. You may also want to talk to a therapist to get tips on how to take control of your sexuality in the healthiest way possible.
Faith
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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
September 5, 2015 - 6:38pmI'd love to give you some information to help you make sense of your sexual desires.
We should start with addressing your past molestation. When you were molested you were not in control. The molester had total control of your body without you giving them that permission. This violation effects your phycology about sex and manifests itself in the desires you find yourself having now. Your sexual desires and fantasies (whether consciously or unconsciously) from a place of wanting to take control of your sexuality again. This in a pattern in women who have been molested.
There is also a pattern of manipulating someone into having a relationship in order to get sex. This is also a control method to sort of take back what was lost when molested.
Most people who experience what you are feeling do not understand where it is coming from. I'm sensing that's how you feel. So, I want to let you know that you are not crazy. But your phycology towards sex has been damaged because you were molested.
I highly suggest that you seek healing and therapy so that you can have healthy sexual relationships in the future. Healing starts by speaking out. The person who molested you should not get away with it! So the first step in telling someone you trust about what happened. You may also want to talk to a therapist to get tips on how to take control of your sexuality in the healthiest way possible.
Faith
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