Hello,
I so sorry to hear of your difficult situation. I'd love to give you some advice on the matter.
Sexual abstinence can stem from two kinds of issues: physical or phycological.
If your boyfriend was molested as a child, has guilt after sex, or has low self-esteem, or depression etc all those factors could cause him to avoid sex.
Then there is the possibility of him having a low libido from low testosterone levels, medications, or medical depression etc.
I understand how hard it is to make it better if he won't talk about it. But you must keep pursuing conversation if you want to changes things. Tell him how important it is for you to have sexual intimacy in your relationship. Try to talk to him during a time when you are both in a good mood, not, for example, right after he's just turned you down again. Use a lot if "I" statements such as "I love you, and really would love to be physically intimate with you." Instead of "Why won't you have sex with me?"
Let us know if you have any more questions.
Faith
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Hello,
September 19, 2015 - 9:36amI so sorry to hear of your difficult situation. I'd love to give you some advice on the matter.
Sexual abstinence can stem from two kinds of issues: physical or phycological.
If your boyfriend was molested as a child, has guilt after sex, or has low self-esteem, or depression etc all those factors could cause him to avoid sex.
Then there is the possibility of him having a low libido from low testosterone levels, medications, or medical depression etc.
I understand how hard it is to make it better if he won't talk about it. But you must keep pursuing conversation if you want to changes things. Tell him how important it is for you to have sexual intimacy in your relationship. Try to talk to him during a time when you are both in a good mood, not, for example, right after he's just turned you down again. Use a lot if "I" statements such as "I love you, and really would love to be physically intimate with you." Instead of "Why won't you have sex with me?"
Let us know if you have any more questions.
Faith
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