Thank you for reaching out to EmpowHER and for sharing your question with our community!
To begin, remember that you are not alone with this! So many women around the world face the same issue in their relationships. If you truly care about your relationship and want to make it work out, try and find the root of the issue.
Did you notice anything specifically in your relationship or in your significant other around the time your sex life decreased?
That's good you and your boyfriend have been talking about this. It's important to be open and honest with one another. Some other questions to consider:
1. Have you two talked about what your ideal relationship is, in regards to being physically intimate (in other ways other than intercourse, but it also includes intercourse)? How does he like to show his affection physically? How do you?
2. Regarding sex/intercourse: What is his opinion on his sexual relationship with you? Does he want to have sex more often in his intimate relationships, with you? If so, what is holding him back from making this a realty? What does he need from you?
Those are just a few questions to consider and to ask your boyfriend to further the conversation. I also recommend you check out this article by one of our experts on EmpowHER: https://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/why-doesn-t-he-want-have-sex-me?page=0,0
Please keep us updated on the scenario and we wish you the best of luck.
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Hi Anon,
Thank you for reaching out to EmpowHER and for sharing your question with our community!
To begin, remember that you are not alone with this! So many women around the world face the same issue in their relationships. If you truly care about your relationship and want to make it work out, try and find the root of the issue.
Did you notice anything specifically in your relationship or in your significant other around the time your sex life decreased?
That's good you and your boyfriend have been talking about this. It's important to be open and honest with one another. Some other questions to consider:
1. Have you two talked about what your ideal relationship is, in regards to being physically intimate (in other ways other than intercourse, but it also includes intercourse)? How does he like to show his affection physically? How do you?
2. Regarding sex/intercourse: What is his opinion on his sexual relationship with you? Does he want to have sex more often in his intimate relationships, with you? If so, what is holding him back from making this a realty? What does he need from you?
Those are just a few questions to consider and to ask your boyfriend to further the conversation. I also recommend you check out this article by one of our experts on EmpowHER: https://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/why-doesn-t-he-want-have-sex-me?page=0,0
Please keep us updated on the scenario and we wish you the best of luck.
Best,
August 22, 2016 - 4:02pmErin
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