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55 year old female and sex is painful

By Anonymous May 3, 2011 - 2:40pm
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married 28 years. the last couple years sex feel like needles poking me . using a lubricate helped for a while. now it does not help

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Thank you for sharing more insight into this situation that you and your wife are experiencing. By our brief internet communication, I cannot give you a diagnosis or advise treatment for the problem. However, here is the link to the website for the Mayo Clinic. I think you will find the information on Painful Intercourse very informative and I hope helpful. Give special attention to the sections on causes, test, treatment, coping and support.
Keep us posted and please return if we can be of further assistance.

May 4, 2011 - 6:38pm

I am sorry that you are experiencing pain with intercourse for a couple of years and with no relief from using a lubricant. Have you talked to your doctor about this problem? I suggest that you discuss this with your doctor. Treating the problem can do wonders for your sex life, your emotional intimacy and your self-image.
I can provide you with some information regarding dyspareunia or painful intercourse. Possible causes include
insufficient lubrication-caused by changes in estrogen levels during menopause, side effect of certain medications such as high blood pressure medications and antihistamines.
vaginusmus- involuntary spasms of the muscles of the vaginal wall can make attempts at penetration very painful.
vestibulitis- painful penetration which is characterized by unexplained stinging or burning around the opening of your vagina.

May 4, 2011 - 4:28pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

thank you for responding. I am the husband. blood pressure is fine
my wife refuses to go to the doctor.
she would rather get a divorce, than go to the doctor. what can we do about vaginusmus ? we try use ky jelly and it does not work anymore. Thank you. we need help. i love my wife and do want to start over. we have been married for 28 years and i am sorry i am still horny

May 4, 2011 - 6:04pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have the exact same problem! Intercourse feels like needles and is so painful I avoid sex like the plague. I avoid the doctor also because even the exams are painful! I know I need to go if I want some relief. I know it is an important part of a relationship . I would rather be alone than have sex also. I can totally relate to your wife. But I was reading that if you don't take care of it it could get worse. I can not imagine it getting worse than it already is. I am only 49 and I have this problem. I like being intimate but avoid it now at all costs. I have decided to go see the doctor. Maybe you should also. Good luck

December 16, 2013 - 10:58pm
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