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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive?

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
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Low Libido

Mine is almost non existant! :o(

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I feel like everyone here has taken the words right out of my mouth!!
I honestly have been feeling this way for years and it only just clicked it may be the Mirena. My husband thinks i don't love him and cheating cos i have no interest in sex at all and the thought of it makes me want to cry.
I will be making an appointment to have it removed today..

May 3, 2017 - 7:04pm
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I'm crying right now, I'm so relieved to know I'm not alone and so sorry that there are so many of us suffering like this.

I've had the Mirena since late December 2014 when I was 41 and in a new relationship. I chose it for the passive birth control as well as period management; my flow was always ridiculously heavy (I needed super absorbent tampons and had to back them up with overnight pads, both of which needed to be changed every two hours) and I couldn't take being chained to the bathroom for a week every month.

Since then, I've put on about 15 lbs, started getting more pimples than I used to, I'm exhausted all the time, i have frequent headaches, and because I already suffer from depression, it's become worse and worse. It never occurred to me that the Mirena might have been the cause of all that, including my lack of sexual desire, so for most of our relationship, my boyfriend (who is now my husband) thought I didn't desire him. Everything either makes me cry or angry. I've started thinking a lot about suicide and death over the last few months.

My husband is about to leave me because he thinks I've never wanted him sexually, that I must be seeing someone on the side, and because I've become more and more moody and ragey, picking fights over every damned thing, he thinks I don't even want to be with him, let alone have sex. He's so angry with me.

I'm crying now because even if I get the Mirena removed, what if the effects don't go away in time for me to save my marriage? I'm so scared that I'm going to lose the man I love, that if it turns out the mirena is the reason for all my crazy, he'll think I'm making it all up to keep him from leaving.

April 23, 2017 - 8:17am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Get it removed for the sake of your marriage. It's choosing to fight for your marriage. The results will be what they are. Don't judge the reversal process of removing the IUD or trying to re establish your libido. The turmoil was at insertion if the IUD not removal. Things should only get better from here. Also, do it for your sanity. You are delicate. You are worthy. You are deserving. Take your life back. A piece of artificial plastic in the cooch is not worthy of you taking your life! Take that shit oooooouuut!! ❤️

September 9, 2017 - 7:11am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Be well, and get the iud removed. I had my merina out almost 2 weeks ago. I'd had the it for almost 10 years (two seperate but sequential iuds). Please be sure to surround yourself with the support you need. I really did experience a 'crash' about 3 days after removal. It was like PMS for me, a sense of overwhelming dread and inability to cope. It's MUCH better now, and the belly bloat is substantially diminished. It never occurred to me that the merina could have impacted my libido. Now that the iud is gone I have, without getting too graphic, the internal 'urge' from the uterus area. You gals know what I mean! My libido is BACK! My husband is a physician so by definition skeptical, but even if the symptoms are psychosomatic who cares? I feel better (now, but do be prepared for a few days of ick) and there is no question my sex drive has returned. For that alone it's worth having it removed.

May 26, 2017 - 1:54pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Please reach out to someone if you are thinking about suicide. 1-800-273-8255 That is the suicide hotline. You are loved and your life matters! Your life is worth it and it will all get better!

May 12, 2017 - 6:58am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Talk! Talk to him. He's obviously hurt. Like I said before, men are fragile! We're often expected to be the sexual aggressors, but being turned down time and again is frustrating and painful. It's natural to look for another cause, and those are the causes that often make sense.

In our case, the change was nearly immediate. I don't know if that's normal or not. Explain what you think might be going on. Show him this page of you think it'll help. I know it's not easy to talk about this sort of thing, but at this point I don't think you can avoid it.

Talk to him! It sounds like he loves you very much, and is just at his wit's end, which is understandable. If that's the case, I'm all but certain he'll at least give it a chance.

May 10, 2017 - 5:06pm
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THANK YOU EVERYONE WHO POSTED HERE! I'm 22 y/o when no sex drive. I've had the mirEna for right at 5 years and this has been affecting my marriage for 2. Once were having sex, it's amazing, toe curling, lip biting amazing! I always have an orgasm. I HAVE ONE SEXY HUSBAND! I just can't get it started, I can't initiate it, it's pushing him away thinking I'm not attracted to him or I'm getting it for elsewhere which neither are the case! I'm making an appointment tomorrow to get this taken out! I can't have this ruin my marriage lIke it has been! Anyone, if you have doubts...don't question it for as long as I have...as soon as the thought crosses you mind it could be the Mirena, TAKE IT OUT!!

April 20, 2017 - 3:44pm
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I hope a man's exoerience could be helpful to some.

My wife had hers implanted shortly after my daughter was born. I offered to have a vasectomy, but she wanted me to retain the choice for a few more years in case I decided I wanted another child. This was my first, her third. That was five years ago, and we're both around 40 now.

It wasn't until about three years into it that I started to suspect the Mirena was causing her libidinal issues. I initially wrote off the changes to having new baby. Obviously I've never been around a new mom and didn't really know what to expect. She was very much like many of you have described. Sometimes uninterested, sometimes willing to indulge me, but that ends up not being worth the effort for anyone, and really added to the mounting resentment. Sometimes apparently nauseated by the idea of being touched.

As our daughter grew older and more independent, things weren't getting any better. I knew she'd been through motherhood twice, and had a healthy sex drive when we met, so I kept hoping it would return in time. Again, as others have mentioned, I felt I was the problem. She must not be attracted to me anymore.

Finally, at one point when we were discussing our problems (which is difficult but a worthwhile exercise none-the-less), I mentioned it could be related to hormonal inbalance from the iud. It was no more than a guess. She was nearing time to remove and decide on next steps. I was completely against having another implanted. After a little research here and elsewhere, I was convinced this was the problem.

I had a vasectomy. I know I'm done fathering children anyway, so no reason for artificially induce hormone levels on her part. She had the iud removed a couple of weeks ago, and it's like a prayer has been answered.

It isn't all about sex. She wants to be close to me again, on the couch watching a movie. She no longer chooses the chair over a seat next to me on the sofa. An offhand double entendre didn't make her mad anymore. She sleeps closer to me in bed than she has recently. In short, it's like it was before our daughter came into our lives again, which is everything I ever wanted. For the first time in several years, I'm comfortable, confident, and content with our relationship.

It's only been about three weeks since she had it removed. She spotted some afterward, but has not yet had a full cycle. (I understand that is not uncommon at this point.) I'm hoping beyond hope that this is our new normal. As the vasectomy shouldn't affect my hormone levels (and so far doesn't seem to have) I'm optimistic about our future. We've been together for 12 years, and for the first time I feel like we're a happy little family.

If you're having doubts or concerns, talk to your doctor. Maybe even more importantly, talk to your partner! Men are fragile. If it had't been for our daughter (the center of my world), I may have left. The feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction were at times unbearable. Don't allow this to ruin an otherwise good relationship.

April 14, 2017 - 8:15am
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As I'm reading all of these comments and can relate to each and every one of them and I am getting more and more upset with myself for keeping this mirena iud in for so long. It has literally destroyed my sex life. I am only 23 and i have no desire what so ever to have sex with my fiancé and he is thinking that I am no longer attracted to him which isn't the case. So we just tried to have sex after a very long drought. So we're doing the foreplay and everytime I would get aroused, it's like it would go away just as quickly when I would become horny. So after 30 mins or so of the back and fourth horny not horny I finally say let's do it.. so we're preparing to do it and as soon as he licks my boobs I was immediately turned off smh. So we had gone back and fourth about not being attracted to one another anymore and maybe we shouldn't be together until I googled this site. I thought I was going crazy about how I've been feeling and I'm happy to know that I am not. So I will be getting this thing removed on the next available appointment my OB has.. i miss my old self ..

April 11, 2017 - 11:28pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

yes everything you are saying. My wife removed it 2 years ago and though things are a tiny bit better, I am wondering if this is just how it is going to be the rest of our lives. It is full blown sexual anxiety where she has to take xanex to be with me.. sucks to say, but it's where we are at. There were other issues beforehand, but Mirena was the icing on the cake. Luckily we both acknowledge it as a faith test and we have God that kept us together and strong. Praying for full closeness though.
Thank you for posting!

April 14, 2017 - 2:02pm
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