I am married for 5 years and I am still virgin you could say . I am always scared of sex ! I want to feel of having sex . I want to do it but fear overcomes . I don't know what is stoping me to have sex . I love my husband and till now he hasn't forced

Thank you so much for your response . I am so grateful to you !! Would you like to suggest me a gynaecologist or the doctor I needed to be over here in Sydney .
Thank you so much again for your time !!
Sincerely,
Shani

Hello Shani,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for reaching out to us for advice.

There is both an emotional or psychological and physical element to sexual intimacy.

Cultural and religious norms can impede a person's desire to have sex. Past abuse can impact a person's ability to enjoy sex. Fear of physical discomfort, fear of intimacy and fear of becoming pregnant can play a role.

I suggest you seek the help of a well-trained therapist or psychologist who can help you determine the reason you are feeling this way, and help you find ways to overcome your fear.

Ask your gynecologist for a referral.

Regards,
Maryann