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Is it safe to continue having sex with my husband after discovering i am HPV +?

By April 26, 2010 - 8:50am
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Early this early, I found out that my pap came back as HPV+ (high Grade). I had pap last July as well do to pregnancy which ended up in miscarriage. Same happened again in January and during that pap the result came back +. After having several tests done for reasons for miscarriages, the Matenal Fetal Medicinie Specialists have not found anything specific that is causing miscarriages at around 6th week. So the they have suggested i try again to see if i will succeed. But my husband is very scared to have any sexual intercourse as he thinks we he may catch the virus from me. We have been together for over a year and we have long distance marriage at this time so it makes things difficult. My question is, is he already infected? Since there are no tests for men, we know that he has never had any warts or anything of that sort. I am not sure how to conitnue our relationship and conceive for a child. He is very health concious and healthy immune system so he afraid to catch the virus. I am planned to have paps every six months so I am due for next one in couple of months. I am also doing everything to keep myself healthy so that the virus remains inactive.

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Hi female34-

Odds are your husband already has HPV. If he didn't have it before he met you, and he certainly could have because it is extremely common, then he probably contracted it from being with you. Most of the time, it doesn't cause a problem in men. If he is extremely healthy as you are saying his odds of having a problem are even smaller. We have information on HPV: https://www.empowher.com/media/reference/hpv-potentially-cancerous-std

The Centers for Disease Controls has a good page on HPV and Men as well: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm

I wonder if a sit down discussion with both of you and your obstetrician/gynecologist would be helpful? This situation is becoming more and more common as testing improves. I can understand his hesitation and fear of becoming ill, but the odds are against that. Perhaps if you can sit as a couple and discuss all of your options with a professional it might help. Sometimes couples counseling is in order, too. Some people are very fearful of illness and disease, and the whole idea can just sort of freak them out whether it is dangerous in reality or not. If that is the case, hearing factual information from a professional might ease your husband's fears.

Please let us know if we can help further. Good luck to you.

April 27, 2010 - 1:13pm
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