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Missed Period

By January 31, 2011 - 9:14pm
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Hello All,
I'm going a bit nutty lately. I am 33 years old. I have a child from a previous relationship and my husband loves her as his own.My husband (of 6 years) and I have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years, with no luck. I have tested myself with ovary kits to make sure I'm ovulating and everything seems to be going well..with me. My husband on the other hand we suspect has a low sperm count or motility issue. Everything was running like clockwork with my body until this month. My last period was Dec 17th, lasted for 7 days and I'm on a 26-35 day cycle. Needless to say as of today I'm 18days late (counting that I was on a 27 or 28 day cycle for this next period). Regardless I'm late and the last time I was this late I was pregnant with my daughter. Well I did a pregnancy test 2 weeks ago and it came out negative. I took another pregnancy test today and it came out negative. I have been nauseated, swollen breasts, mild back pain, and some whitish dishcharge from my vagina, as well as moodiness and tired. However, I researched pre-menopause and it shows most of the same symptoms except the discharge and for menopause it states lowered libido- in the last few weeks mine has spiked.

I don't want to make this a big deal and everytime I get the negative result I get a little depressed, but I don't know what's going on with my body. I have heard our cycles can be off because of stress, diet, weight, yada yada, but none of that has changed for me. I would like some feedback as to what you think and do I go to the doctor now or do I wait for another few months as I have read on some websites. I'm only concerned for waiting in case it may be something that needs to be taken care of soon. Also, I'm curious if doctors even do pregnancy tests via blood work anymore it seems that most just use the urine tests that we can all get a the local drugstore anyway? Does a blood test pick up lower levels of HCG?
Thanks for your input. I just don't know what to do.

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Hi jojomami,
I agree with Rosa. I know how waiting for your period when it's late can drive you bonkers. If it were me, I would wait and see if you get it in February. If you don't get it, I would definitely make an appointment. Even though most doctors want to see when you have gone 90 days without a period, I personally wouldn't be able to wait that long. There could be any one of a number of reasons why you are not getting it. A doctor would want to rule out some of those.
Good luck! Let us know what you find out and how you're doing.

February 3, 2011 - 9:40am


Thanks for posting.

Usually, when you take a urine pregnancy test, it is very accurate-- especially if you are late on your period. Since your last period was Dec 17, On a 35 day cycle you were due to start again on Jan 21. However, given the fact that you are on a 26-35 day cycle, you're period seems to be irregular and unpredictable. I know you say that you haven't had any stress, weight loss, weight gain, or anything that can affect your period but it does sound like you've been through quite a journey trying to conceive and perhaps even every month as you wait to see if you are pregnant or not. Have you always had irregular periods?

Honestly, based on what you've said and your age-- it really doesn't sound like perimenopause but more like an irregular period. If you want to visit your doctor for any tests and for another pregnancy test--you may. Perhaps, it will give you a little peace of mind.

February 1, 2011 - 6:50am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Yes, that is as regular as I get. :) I actually have a pretty regular pattern. I go 26 days, then the next time 27, then 28 and so on and so forth, then my body tends to go backward...35, then 34 days, then 33, etc. I really don't even wait to tell whether I'm pregnant or not anymore... I hit despair about a year ago and gave up. :( So I just figure my period is coming. That's why it was such a surprise when it wasn't there last month. So here I am again this month (Feb) thinking that it will come shortly.
Rosa, I really don't want to run to the Dr. if I will just be embarassed (False Alarm theory). Having said that, how many months should I wait until I go find out what is going on with my wacky body?
Thanks for your time and thoughts!

February 3, 2011 - 1:31am
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