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my boyfriend for over a year just recently stopped having sex with me, its like it went from 3 or 4 times a week and slowly went to not having it for almost 2 months, every time i ask him why he wont play with me anymore he always says i don't know, i didn't want to make it feel like i was bugging him but i guess it just hurt when he said he didn't know? So i kept asking him and then i finally got a response which i just think he gave me so i would stop asking and he just said i feel like your getting bored of me. I've tried many times to tell him that its not really about the sex its about being with him and he still wont have sex with me.. i feel like i'm not wanted or i'm not good enough. I just want to know what the problem is, sex used to be a big part of our relationship and now its nothing.
I know it shouldnt but this is really making me depressed i've been crying more because of this i get mad easly because he just seems like he doesnt care anymore. Also i know he doesn't have a STD or anything else we get checked.
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Mine does nag alot i do call him a woman at times. Hes also pushy alot of times which i can be to. Yet he can take his time like for example going into a store yet i have to hurry. Wtf? I blame his ex for him being who he is today. Then again i blame his father which i didn't know personally for not teaching him how to treat a spouse the right way. Ain't nothing wrong with a woman calling her hubby a closet fag he might be you and we don't know but what we do know is we ain't getting it from him so whereas he getting it from? His optioned up hand? Cmon how long can a man really get fulfillment from self hand jobs? Maybe some men don't need a woman if he don't like how she acts. Trust me my ol man was like this is his past relationship. I thought maybe it was her but now i wonder.. Btw why do some men not think picking us a simple flower wouldn't cheer us up? Im simple give me a hand picked flower even if its wilted ill feel loved but when it comes to sex if i ain't getting it i am a bitch. So here's a theory women since we girls are the blame how bout we stop cooking cleaning taking care of our hubbys laundry lets lay around in over sized sweats and hoodies with jacked up hair then when he asks wtf is wrong we rip our clothes off revealing our A: chastity belts or B: birthday suits or c: boy short underwear and pasties. Lets let it ALL hangout. Walk away as we are a start baking cookies. Hows you reaction now our manly women who are actually having midlife crisis.
February 14, 2015 - 7:03pmThis Comment
I agree with handpicked wilted flower... i think that's very sweet :) Hahaha, all of the above please for the douche bags. Men nag a lot too. Women just don't want to point that out. Our unsung deeds like making you dinner, cleaning your room, or making sure you have lunch tomorrow - remain unsung. Sex is just as important to us women. Don't you guys feel unloved and worthless if we keep denying you sex? Wouldn't it be unfair if we told you to thank hedonistic (man) pigs if we stopped having sex with you? Yes, I don't think so either! Let's not generalize women here. Don't punish us for the sins of other women, your mothers, or your ex gf's.
February 16, 2015 - 4:11pmThis Comment
Ladies may I have all of your attention here. Now I'm a guy and all I can say first of all there are not thousands of gay guys secretly hiding it. This is 2014 and now days that's the popular thing to fit in. Secondly and most importantly guys are cleaner than women. We as men love to smell good and most certainly do not like foul smells that women are use to. A foul smell or horrible odor uprising from the vagina can be very unpleasant for the guy. It is THE biggest and MOST common turn off a guy can experience from a girl. Some guys are straight forward and will tell you what they notice and then others just assume not to hurt ones feelings, either way 75% of women have a foul odor reaking from their vagina which is very noticeable during intimacy, when girls are sexually aroused. I'm not a female so I'm not aware of what remedies would be needed to fix that problem. Word of advice before you start getting any ideas about your man being bisexual you might want to do a finger job in your own vagina and do a test smell. If it smells bad to you it will definitely smell terrifying to the guy, as we can smell a females scent way stronger than ones self can.
December 23, 2014 - 6:01pmThis Comment
I highly disagree that men are cleaner than woman, and if you were a woman you would know that. I'm sure most of the women here get clean before having sex, but what do men do? Nothing.
February 11, 2015 - 11:53pmThis Comment
OMG, agreed. That guy is a douche. I think his ego overpowered his scent, which is too bad - I can tell he smells like a century egg. I feel bad for his women.
February 16, 2015 - 3:45pmThis Comment
Women have bashed men long enough that men no longer want women. Thank feminism. Men, Google MGTOW and join the movement!
December 18, 2014 - 4:07amThis Comment
Well, thank meninism and for pigs like you. I just realized that men like you love to generalize and enjoy punishing innocent women for the sins of feminists, their shemale ex gf's or lowlife ex-friends-with-benefits... sad excuse for women if you ask me. If you got std's and 3rd-degree burns from their stinky pussies, don't be blaming us!
February 16, 2015 - 4:18pmThis Comment
So many comments from women here, and no one is realizing that your boyfriends and husbands are closet homosexuals, yes that right that have gay tendencies, there are 1000s of hetro men out there that will pleasure you, i personally have a huge sex drive and could quite easily have sex 4 times a day. its time to leave him and let him have his secret meet up's with homosexual men and move on to someone who will give you what you want. Hetro men will never and i mean never, turn down the opportunity for sex, its what we are made for
December 10, 2014 - 8:40pmThis Comment
OMG I feel like i can relate to everyone here! I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now. Our relationship jumped the gun really quick we moved in together immediately. we knew each other so the connection flowed great therefore he moved in with me well at first I should really say the first month sex was great !! month 2 & 3 hardly none we went month 4 & 5 without having sex month 6 & 7 was twice a month and now again 8 & 9 none !!!! when the relationship started I was on birth control at the 5th month I removed it as a decision he pushed for. When it came to having sex to make this baby he wanted so much it didn't happen other than those 2 times a month i tried talking to him about it and he stated he loved me and it was him that he just couldn't perform to what i want that he had a low sex drive so he would rather not besides to him sex meant nothing hes 28 yrs old lets be honest here hes an ex marine he had a heck of a sex drive why not now???? i know he can perform great it was amazing the first month where is that man again ? i brought it up again and again and he says i don't turn him on because I'm always bugging about it how could i not? when we do have sex its great im always left happy and satisfied I'm 27 excuse for talking freely but i have a high sex drive i have a piercing and quiet frankly i have a boyfriend masturbating isn't cutting it. i went as much as asking him if he would be OK if i could have a female provide me with the satisfaction that i want and need that he isn't doing.. at first he wasn't happy with my question he let it sink in and agreed i could (i haven't done it yet, and i say yet because i feel like it will happen sooner or later) to bring you back to that first month i will say this the piercing threw him off guard, well to get into detail i can also squirt it freaked him out !!!! Ive always had a huge sex drive and any other man i've been with has found these two things great but not him i took the piercing off for about 4 months i recently put it back in and hes yet to know since we are back at not having sex. the other night i lost my mind i feel unwanted rejected ugly a turn off fat name it i told him i completely needed change because apart of me was letting go, i needed explanation on why again the 2 months of no sex. he now changed it from low sex drive to hes scared of me getting pregnant ( uhm hello hes who wanted it !!! ) i told him fine we can use protection i can get back on birth control but the problem needs to be fixed or i will leave this frustration of being turned down has now made me feel depressed. nothing has yet to happened other than i feel more confused than ever. i asked him if he would rather not have sex if he can put my needs first and please me with out sex and nothing. other than the nosex hes an amazing man i dont get it ? this past month we went from him living with me to us moving out and getting a new much more pricier apartment so i find it harder to up and leave things went from mine to ours. i dont get it we literally wont go to sleep unless my leg is on him or vise versa.... how can we have moments like that but never any sexual activity? mind you he LOVES for us to shower together what is going on what do i do how can i continue like this?... help
lost and confused
December 8, 2014 - 2:46pmThis Comment
Hi, I'm in the same situation. He and i have been together for 3 yrs now. Maybe this will help the ladies out here coz he and i discussed it plus i have a few other tips from my friends who have been in long term relationships (5+ years). To start it off, when men become more emotionally involved, they're less interested in sex. It's the opposite effect for women coz we tend to give more when the emotional connection gets stronger. This doesn't mean he finds u less attractive. Hractually loves u more when the sex goes down. I know, I get offended and hurt too so we both agreed to compromise coz after all "it takes 2 to tango." My friends also said that after a year (maybe months or more for some couples), you become more like the best of friends and then again the sex isn't at much. Lastly, and u may take offense to this, "men want what they can't have." I'm hypersexual ever since i became more emotionally involved with him, and the less he gives, the more i wanted it. I guess this applies to women as well. There are times when I don't feel like doing it, but i'd have to give in if he wants it coz who knows when he'll b horny again. I know it's hard, but we should resist temptation by any means and make them want us more. Men admit that they masturbate to other women (i hope it's just porn) even if they're in relationships. U can talk to him about it and say what offends u and what doesn't. This is a few stuff I've learned over the course of 3 yrs. Just be confident, make him chase u, and even if he turned u down for sex many many times - u're still the only woman for him coz he's with u.
December 4, 2014 - 6:44amThis Comment