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My husband doesn't look at my body...

By May 25, 2011 - 9:01pm
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After 'grooming' one day i propositioned my husband for sex. I was naked and noticed that my husband didn't realise i groomed. Trying not to think anything of it we had sex and he still didn't notice, after he did but by then i felt used and really sad. My husband never makes me feel ugly and he frequently tells me im beautiful. I dont know if im making a big deal about nothing because i am not happy with my body (im adjusting to my post pregnancy figure) :-(

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it doesn't mean that how he making u feel good saying that u beautiful but y he was uncomfortable wit u to get sex is there perfect reason to avoid u know the hell he wants from u it may the solution for your problem i have solution for it but he doesn't workout at your husband because i don know his approach to u in mean of sex at u

May 30, 2011 - 4:02am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

To be frank he lossing a good person that he not looking at u and not caring at all.In my indian language i say that he is really crack not looking at wife u want him in your life most trusted person and how he can belive others in my view when u get married total beliving. he is everything for u. how he can behave like this? and for your patience i really ates off to u......................

May 30, 2011 - 11:11pm
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my daughter read your post to me, was just wandering if your husband know about you unhappy about the way you view yourself right now after having a baby? my wife was the same way and i was afraid to commit on her body wasnt sure what was right or wrong to say, maybe he just wanted to make sure it was ok to say something so he wouldnt hurt you or get into trouble and be in the dog house

May 26, 2011 - 10:13pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

dont be nervous he expecting something else from u so he looking out u he may wants something from that shoud look him good to get your body look good so thing know wat the thing he need from you and also make sure that getting together is good when he is in like mood
if want changes in u as per look get try once

May 30, 2011 - 1:50am

Hi Leskelt,

Thank you for question. Your husband not noticing that you groomed until after you had sex doesn't seem so bad to me. Men are not detail oriented as we are, where we would notice a new mole on their body if it just showed up one day. Sometimes the stress of daily living can make him think that you had already groomed before or he really may have just overlooked it- let this this one slide, he sounds like a good man. He makes you feel beautiful, you just had a child together-- cut he guy some slack :)

I also completely understand why you felt the way you did-- I also had to adjust to my body after one child, then after the second. Even the slightest changes in our bodies don't go unseen by ourselves but judging by what your say about your husband it sounds like he's not half as concerned about your post baby body as you are. :)

All the best!


May 26, 2011 - 6:46am

dont worry about it some any day he will get o soon

May 26, 2011 - 6:54am
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