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My husband is no longer intimate. HELP

By Anonymous December 30, 2010 - 5:27pm
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My husband have been married for 4 yrs. We married 3 weeks after we met. He is my soul mate, he says I'm his. We would make love 2 to 3 times a day. I do know that after awhile things slow down. I get that. However, 1 month after marriage, I met his parents, it came to a screeching hault. And I mean a dead stop. I tried to initiate, he turned me down more than I have fingers on my hand. So I leave him alone. He is no longer effectionate, spontanious, or loving. We had our four yr anniversary sept of this year..nothing happened. We have not been intimate since the beginning of Aug of this year. It is now 2 days before the new year. I am very lonely, aggrivated, and I just want him to leave. I have physically and emotionally shut down. I have a roommate not a soul mate. He claims that he has to be in the mood because he wont satisfy me. Well I would take that over nothing. HELP!

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