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My partner has Asperger's and I have borderline personality disorder

By January 13, 2017 - 8:11am
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I feel like we both can't communicate effectively. i understand his syndrome but sometimes i don't realize it and i get so resentful if he doesn't pick up on hints, talks to me etc.
i get anxious over the thought of approaching him about it, i'm too scared to. i don't know what to do,

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Woooow, I'm just in the same situation as you are, I know him 10 years ago but just start dating him and knew about His diagnostic.
I'm also quite afraid and although I'm a psychologist it's hard to take this to the personal space.
I been thinking about this, and will stand only If i feel I can deal with it, i don't want to hurt him neither I, so we definitely will go to professional therapy and will be searching for strategies to keep going and make him feel better. I hope we can go through this in the best way

March 25, 2017 - 11:22pm

Hello gabrielle55,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for reaching out to us with your issue.

Asperger Syndrome (AS) is a neurobiological disorder on the higher-functioning end of the autism spectrum. Individuals with AS and related disorders exhibit serious deficiencies in social and communication skills. Their IQ’s are typically in the normal to very superior range.

Each person is different. Many people with AS have a marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as: eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction. They can have extreme difficulty in developing age-appropriate peer relationships. They can have difficulty understanding other's feelings and difficulty with the give and take of conversation.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning. These experiences often result in impulsive actions and unstable relationships. A person with BPD may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last from only a few hours to days.

gabrielle55, you both have conditions that present challenges in a relationship. I can only suggest you seek the help of a psychologist or counselor trained in these fields.


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