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Pregnancy Paranoia?

By Anonymous July 6, 2010 - 2:10pm
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I am 19 years old and in my first relationship. My problem is (and I'm not sure why) is that I'm INCREDIBLY paranoid about getting pregnant, probably due to the fact that it's the worst possible scenario that could happen in my life. I have discussed this fear with my boyfriend. Several weeks ago, I began experiencing breast tenderness, soreness, vertigo, and nausea. My period came three weeks late, and that was about two weeks ago. I am still experiencing nausea at times and am totally paranoid about what seems to be abdominal swelling and this weird line down my stomach. I am usually a pretty rational thinker, but everything seems to go out the window when it comes to this. I should point out that we've never actually had intercourse. The extent of what we've done includes making out (with me lying on top of him), and at one point he sat on my legs and rubbed my back. He has touched my thighs and breasts but we have NEVER taken off clothing. I just need to be reassured that I'm probably stressing over nothing.

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Thanks for the comments, they are reassuring. Even though I did have my period, I was kind of concerned because it was different than usual, as in I didn't experience bleeding at night, and it ended a day early. However, this is probably not reason enough for concern. As for the abdominal swelling, I can't really confirm if it's abnormal or if it's something that's always been that way and I'm just noticing things now. I have taken two tests and both have come back negative, but then I keep worrying that I might have done something wrong. But I know that what you are both saying is true and I am worrying too much. I have a history of hypochondria. Anyway, thanks!

July 8, 2010 - 12:08pm
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I'm glad to hear that the tests came out negative, and you have had your period.

Women have different or irregular periods often, and as long as you are having a menstrual period, it means you are not pregnant.

It might help to know this information about abnormal periods; you should call your doctor if you experience bleeding that is:
- excessive, soaking more than one pad or tampon every hour
- lasting longer than 7 days

Let us know if you have any other questions. Have you been diagnosed with hypochondria, or was this said more "tongue-and-cheek"?

July 8, 2010 - 1:02pm

Hi Anonymous,
Congrats on your relationship! How exciting for you. I completely agree with what Alison told you. She gave you some good advice. If you continue to be intimate, or get more intimate with your boyfriend, you should definitely arm yourself with information, and especially in regard to contraception. Here is Empowher's page on deciding what's right for you:
A doctor, parent, or trusted adult could help you if you have questions also. We also are here to help you. Be strong, safe, and enjoy this exciting time in your life.
If you have more questions about sexual activity, here is a link to Planned Parenthood's page on that, but please don't be afraid to come back here also and ask more too!

July 7, 2010 - 9:04am

Let me start by saying: you are not pregnant.

Can you tell me what information you know about HOW you do get pregnant? You are 19 years old, and I would love to help you fill-in-the-blanks, because it is definitely something you should know by now.

In order to become pregnant, you need to have intercourse. Or, at least have penis-to-vagina stimulation with the man's penis ejaculating semen on/near your vagina. Your clothes would need to be removed.

- You can not become pregnant with a back rub.
- You can not become pregnant by having your thighs or breasts touched.

You also can not be pregnant if you continue having periods.

Why are you worried about pregnancy? Are you feeling like the physical intimacy between you two is too much, and you are feeling uncomfortable and wanting a reason to stop?

Your physical symptoms could be anything, but if you are having abdominal swelling, you may need to talk with your doctor. Vertigo can be treated as well.

July 6, 2010 - 2:28pm
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