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By Anonymous January 17, 2011 - 5:48pm

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So my boyfriend is a complete sweetheart to me all the time. Except I have 4 problems. Recently ask him what we're doing for this valentines day. His words were he's not buying flowers. Is that right I mean he never buys me flower anyways but this is a day for lovers. Even our anniversary he doesn't buy any for me. The last time he did was over a year ago. The second thing is he's always looking at other women weather it's on line or when we're out. And one he even did a double take on a girl saying holy crap like she was the hottest thing he'd ever seen. Then said that she was so sexy and beautiful which he never says to me anymore. Third he has a friend he's known for many years and whenever she calls he constantly tells her he loves her, he even tells me all the time i miss her and I love her so much. But when I bring her name up he gets all I don't want to talk about her attitude. I know he's not cheating cause he's always with me but could he be in love with her? 4th our sex life (what sex life I don't have one). We have sex the same position every time we have sex me on my back him on his side my leg over his side. No fun for me. I'm always touching him down there before yet even though he does it I get the feeling he doesn't really want to. And oral sex that's always my doing I get nothing maybe once every 5 6 months. And I don't know if it's because I am going on a year of not being a virgin so it's tighter or because he's not getting me in the mood. But when he enter it hurts he's not rough he's actually very gentle. I mean when he's touching my clit he pushes to hard but. I have talked to him many times about the sex and it doesn't change. I confused and annoyed.

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January 18, 2011 - 12:40pm

Anonymous

I forgot to add that when we do have sex if he gets off and I don't he doesn't bother finish getting me off he just cuddles up with me for a few minutes then rolls over and goes to sleep. Leaving me hanging.

January 17, 2011 - 6:07pm