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Why am i always moody,short tempered,feeling lonely....

By Anonymous May 2, 2011 - 7:31am
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Hi, I am a 30 year old married woman, married for 4 years. Since 3 years, I am facing lot of problems because of my mood swings. The tiniest of reasons can make me very upset and moody for days. It also ends up in a fight with my husband and I would not speak to him for almost a week. My mood swings has caused a rift between me n my in-laws. I get angry extremely fast and almost become violent like speaking absolute nonsense sometimes, insulting my husband in front of others, beating my three year old son etc. Since childhood I have not mingled much with anyone and seeing people makes me nervous n shy. Because of my introvert nature am not able to allow my son to meet other people and other children. I like to be alone and do things alone. I never liked to talk about others or boys or share my feelings with others so I did not have friends after my school days. Now, I practically do not have any friends and feel extremely lonely and have to keep talking to myself. I cannot concentrate or focus in anything and I feel am becoming incompetent. My juniors are fast progressing. I am also having a huge memory problem. In spite of repeated explanations in how to do my work I keep forgetting it (as I find it complicated to understand) and hence I cannot move on. I also feel tired most of the time and feel my life has no meaning at all. My married life is in a devastated stage because of my attitude with my in laws and my fights with my husband. I have thought of divorce many times. I have even thought of suicide many times because I don’t want to spoil my husband’s and son’s life. Somebody please HELP ME…WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME????

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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for finding EmpowHER, and for reaching out in this way. I strongly suggest if you have not yet, to contact your doctor immediately, or go to the emergency room and tell them what you have posted here. I am positive that you can be helped with some professional medical help. Have you been to see a doctor about your emotional state? Are you currently on any medication?

You are important to your family, they do need you, and I'm also positive they want to see you feeling better, just like we want to see you continue to advocate for your health so you can have better days.
We are here to provide insight and support as needed, but you've got to take the next steps to help yourself and work on getting better. You can do it. No one says it will be easy, but I bet it will be worth it. I dealt with post-partum depression after the birth of my first child. I know how scary the thoughts are, and how unsettling the lack of focus and irritability is.
Writing this here is Step 1, and I'm super happy you have done it. Now do Step 2: talk with a doctor so they can get you going on the right track and help you figure out what's going on. No one will judge you, they just want to help you find focus, and better days. The doctor likely will prescribe a three-fold approach to dealing with your condition: medication, individual talk therapy, and possibly group therapy if you are comfortable with that.

It is human to have trouble at times. Not everyone can be "up" all the time. Being here and participating in group or individual therapy is a great step. But when you reach those lowest of lows, and don't have anyone to talk to...
- Contact emergency services (911 in the USA) if you feel you may do harm to yourself or someone else.
- Call your doctor or go to a hospital or clinic and ask for help.
- Contact any and all of these for assistance:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org (800) 273-8255 (TALK), or (888) 628-9454 (en Espanol)
Crisis counseling: (800) 999-9999
or Google: International Suicide Helpline Numbers
- EmpowHER Depression Group: https://www.empowher.com/groups/Depression
We want you to get better, and are here to provide inspiration and support.
Good luck, and please come back as much as you need to and "talk" with us. We sincerely want to know how you're doing.
Take care,

May 2, 2011 - 8:29am
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Anonymous (reply to Christine Jeffries)

Thanks a lot Christine for spending your valuable time to go through what i had written and to also suggest a solution. It was really very kind of you. I'l surely have to see a doctor and get myself treated if thats whats required. I have never consulted a doctor for this. But i had a strong feeling something is really wrong with me which i wanted to confirm. Thanks to EmpowHER, I found help at last... Since i am working in the gulf kindly advise me what type of doctor i have to meet? is it a pyschiatrist or physician? i really dont know... Thanks Christine once again...

May 3, 2011 - 12:29am
(reply to Anonymous)

Hi again,
I'm glad you are open to talking with a doctor about your symptoms. There likely is a real medical reason why you are experiencing this, and it can be treatable. It may take some time and a bit of work to figure out a treatment that works for you, but please know that you will be on the right path toward brighter days.
You may want to start with your general practitioner, and ask them for a recommendation as needed. Make sure you ask the questions you have, and write them down if you need to so you don't feel overwhelmed, or confused. Remember, your doctor is there to help take care of your health. They want you to feel better, so work with him or her to ensure the best possible treatment.
Good luck, and let us know if you need further support.

May 3, 2011 - 9:43am
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