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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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My gf doesn't like to take showers what shall I do? I love to have sex wither but she doesn't shower what should I do
December 16, 2010 - 3:31pmThis Comment
Hi anonymous,
December 17, 2010 - 8:08amIs your concern that she doesn't shower, or does she bathe at all? If you are close with your girlfriend, you should be able to talk with her and explain your concern for her cleanliness. You can't change her. Accept you are different, and have different values. If she won't budge on it, you can decide to move on. Good luck!
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im a guy he might have cheated but he might have some bad news. my ex didnt want sex for 3 months i asked he directly and she said it was over. i asked again about the sex and it turned out she had found out she was sterile so she was depressed
December 16, 2010 - 11:35amThis Comment
i know this whole situation is really frustrating ladies......but have u'll tried effective communication?maybe u ain't communicating very well.i believe it will help find out wats wrong with the guy?sex isn't and shouldn''t be the most important activity in a relationship...listen more than you cuddle and kiss, some guys tend to appreciate it more..........
December 14, 2010 - 12:02pmThis Comment
I have the same problem,but it started happening after i got pregnant. For some reason I just don't feel pretty anymore,&its not like I still have all the weight that I gained during my pregnancy. Im a size 3 and I use to be a 0. If anything he should find me more attractive because I gained some curves&more chest. I dont know..I cant seem to find what the problem is. He never wants to get a condom to have sex,and before I was pregnant we use to have it all the time. It sucks. =[
December 13, 2010 - 10:32amThis Comment
I have the SAME EXACT issue. I have literally been dating my BF for about a year now. Started when he was oversea's in Iraq, we always used to talk on skype and you know... pictures, video etc etc. It was great and we he is amazing! He has two steady jobs. He NEVER lets things bother him and he doesn't ever get mad. But after he got home in July, we had sex about a couple times a night for the first month or so he was home, and then gradually it reduced to 2 or 3 times a week. Which is fine for me, and now its like, very rare. I try to hard to get him excited. Last week, early morning, I stopped by before class and i took off my shirt to try to be, I guess, spontaneous and he replied with "Babe, put your clothes back on." I couldn't believe it. I was upset and left. I felt completely rejected. haha i don't know what could be wrong.
December 12, 2010 - 12:45pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
December 13, 2010 - 9:30amHave you tried talking with him in a loving way (not accusing) way? Let him know that it bothers you that your sex life seems to be going through a down-turn. Find out how he feels about it. Try to focus on other things than sex for a while, and see if the sex comes back naturally. If not, and you don't get anywhere talking, you can decide to move on. Try to not complicate things too much. Understandably, your boyfriend may have been though a lot overseas, so try to give it a little time, but when you decide it's been enough, stick to what you want, and don't accept anything but happiness.
Good luck.
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If he doesnt want to have sex with you anymore its because he's with someone eles point blank an (or) he getting "bored" with you. Most men, they like excitement and they will get bored easliy. Thats why they always need something to stimulate their mind. They are attracted to porno, sports, games (video), fast cars and etc. Get the concept. Don't feel any way. You don't need a man to validate your worth! He acting like that, the world is big go out and get someone else.
December 12, 2010 - 9:45amThis Comment
My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years now. Like in any other normal couple's relationship..we would have sex everyday and at anytime that we could. But now, he barely wants to have sex. There's always an excuse such as.."I'm too tired," It's late," "I have to work tomorrow," "Why can't we just cuddle?," "I'm not in the mood," and "Maybe tomorrow." It's really frustrating. We went from having sex all the time..to maybe three times a month..if I'm lucky. It's really annoying, and I don't know what to do about it anymore. I mean I love him..don't get me wrong. But it just makes me want to find someone else who is willing to give me the time and attention that I want and need. Is it bad of me to think this way?
December 12, 2010 - 1:44amThis Comment
My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years now. Like in any other normal couple's relationship..we would have sex everyday and at anytime that we could. But now, he barely wants to have sex. There's always an excuse such as.."I'm too tired," It's late," "I have to work tomorrow," "Why can't we just cuddle?," "I'm not in the mood," and "Maybe tomorrow." It's really frustrating. We went from having sex all the time..to maybe three times a month..if I'm lucky. It's really annoying, and I don't know what to do about it anymore. I mean I love him..don't get me wrong. But it just makes me want to find someone else who is willing to give me the time and attention that I want and need. Is it bad of me to think this way?
December 12, 2010 - 1:43amThis Comment