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Why doesn't my fiancé want to have sex with me anymore?

By December 27, 2010 - 8:00am
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We've been dating for almost a year now, everything was great at first. He helped me after a really bad experience and before being my boyfriend he's my best friend. Whenever we started dating, everything was fine we had fun together and we would have sex everyday two to three times a day then it slowly decreased to once a week (on a good week). I don't know maybe it's because he's older and he has way more experience than me, i don't know what to think anymore, he tells me he loves me and he wants to be with me but it doesn't even seem that way anymore. I feel like I'm living with a friend/roommate instead than with the man I love, the person who says he wants to marry me. He seems to really enjoy it whenever we're having sex but once we're done that's it. Before his excuse was that he was tired and stressed out but he's not even working now, I mean he couldn't have a less stressful life, he would always tell me how once our situation changed and he was more relaxed things would go back to the way they were and nothing has changed. Whenever we do it I don't even enjoy it as much anymore because I don't know when he'll actually want to do it again so I hold it for as long as we do it, so I'm not even being satisfied anymore.... What can I do? What should I do?

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Hi Ange,
Thank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. Just as every relationship is unique, so are the reasons or causes behind your partner's choices and his behavior towards you. We have compiled the “best responses” received from both men and women in regard to your specific question, and hope you read through them thoughtfully. Women have been going through the same struggles, and have shared their insight and lessons learned. Men have also shared why they may not want to have wanted sex in their strained relationships. Please let us know what “words of wisdom” or “tips” resonated with you from the following articles:

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December 27, 2010 - 8:24am
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