Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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hi :) good day , me and my boyfried done outercourse , last sept 22 , but i accidentaly sat on his fluid( a drop of semen on the floor) when i about to wipe some of it on his body. my last period was august 28 and im 3 months delayed :( i also expirence a what do we call spotting on october 22-24 and november 3-4 , and my nips were sore right now. i already try home pregnancy test for 3 times and they all resulted negative , im so scared :( were only 17 , what should i do ? am i pregnant ? :(
November 29, 2014 - 6:16amThis Comment
hi,
November 24, 2014 - 9:58amMe and my girl friend are laying on each other on Oct 2nd. Both are in full clothing(Jeans & Chudidar). I ejaculated on my underwear. She had her period on Oct 25th. She is having legs pain and right breast pain. Is she preganant?Can sperm travel through(underwear,pant,chudidar)? I'm worried. Could you please help.
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hi, i wanted to ask if i can be pregnant if me and my bf have dry sex? he is wearing thin boxer and underwear. and i was wearing thin shorts and panty at that time. we are both wet and still go on. im so stressed right now. please answer me asap.
November 19, 2014 - 7:09pmThis Comment
Is there a risk of pregnancy when a couple humps without any clothes on. Like their genitals are on on top of each other, but the penis was never inserted. Is there any chance? Thank you.
November 14, 2014 - 3:08amThis Comment
So I have a question. Me and my boyfriend were dry humping and we were just in our underwear. He did not cum. But I did. But me and him were both wet. He thinks he was wet from me and the precum. Is there any chance I'm pregnate? I took 2 test and they were both negative. Then me and my boyfriend did something similar but he had underwear shorts and pants on while I had underwear and pants on. Am I just over reacting? I'm just really scared about being pregnate
October 27, 2014 - 5:27pmThis Comment
My boyfriend and I normally have dry sex (more recently, we've been lazy and done it with our clothes on), but when we started, he would be in his boxers and I would be in my underwear. Most of the time I wear panties, but I have underwear that are like thongs and slip easily and his boxers all have a hole where the penis is. Although he has to pause every once in a while to adjust his junk, there have been times where he has ejaculated close to my vagina (it's gotten on my underwear in tiny portions. Also, I have noticed when lying on my stomach, the inner right side of my pelvis kinda hurts like a bruise/like someone is pressing a hard object up against it from the inside. Could I be pregnant?
October 26, 2014 - 3:02pmThis Comment
Hi me and my girlfriend were dry humping and I come a little but I didn't notice and when I check my pants it was wet outside of my pants will my girlfriend get pregnant? I was wearing a shorts and underwear and she is in her panties but I came a little and still continues humping and my underwear and pants were a little wet from the outside please reply asap
October 18, 2014 - 3:59pmThis Comment
I was on my my period all of August the doctor prescribed birth control to stop it. It stopped and in September I had dry sex with a guy that came in his pants he had underwear and jeans on and I had yoga pants and underwear on I havnt had my period in a month and I don't know if that a side effect from the birth control I took or if I'm pregnant please help!
October 15, 2014 - 10:31pmThis Comment
Hey , my boyfriend and I have been dry humping he usually gets it in a little but him with boxers and shorts and me with shorts as well , is there any way of pregnancy?
October 9, 2014 - 9:56pmThis Comment
Hi please answer me I'm freaking out! So I'm a virgin and me and my boyfriend had dry sex two days ago. I had under wear and thin shorts on and he had just thin boxers. I was so soaked with cum that it went through my shorts to his. Later he came (with his boxers on) but right into my vagina hole( I still had my shirts and underwear on) but if it was do wet do u think his cum could've went through??? Please help me, I'm freaking out!
October 7, 2014 - 1:50pmThis Comment