Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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My boyfriend and I were dry humping and he ejaculated through his shorts and I was wet as well and we kept dry humping. I don't know if our fluids got mixed up in my underwear or if I could be pregnant. Should I take a pregnancy test?
June 20, 2017 - 12:37pmThis Comment
I'm irregular. I skipped my period last april but got it back on may. My only problem with that is i had brown period then later red which mostly comes out only when i pee. What could that be about?
Also, my bf and i had been dry humping since oct 2016. My period first skipped on nov which i believe was because of stress from worrying.. then, it came back the next month regular. Fast forward, we dry humped last may. I got my period (brown at first, then red which also mostly comes out when i pee or push) by may 21-27 i think? Then now in june, i got my period (which is mostly brown and one day turned red then came back to brown again) earlier, last june 11, with cramping & pms symptoms. We dry humped fully clothed back then. Him in brief, boxers, and denim shorts. Me in underwear and kinda denim shorts. I was the only one who got wet. I just worry bc of the sudden change in my period and discharge... Can i be pregnant?.. i also worry if it might happen again next month... But i'm planning to stop dry humping with him since i get paranoid a lot! i'm skinny btw, weighing 37kg.. 17 y/o..
June 20, 2017 - 2:56amThis Comment
I and my bf was having dry hump with my penties and his underwear and track pants.. he ejaculated a little and cum touched his track not sure if it reached my pantirs.. should I take medicine unwanted 72 to prevent pregnancy.. it has been one day.
June 19, 2017 - 6:29amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for pregnancy because you were both wearing bottoms, you in panties and he in underwear and track pants.
It was unnecessary to take an ECP. Be aware the pill can cause changes in your menstrual cycle. Your next period could start earlier or later than expected and flow might be lighter or heavier than normal.
Regards,
June 19, 2017 - 9:02amMaryann
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So i was dry humping my girl-friend and i ejaculated on her vagina area but she had short shorts on and underwear on should i be worried ?
June 15, 2017 - 8:17pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for pregnancy because she was wearing shorts.
Maryann
June 19, 2017 - 8:58amThis Comment
Me and my boyfriend we're dry humping but with close one and he didn't cum.. but the thing is we did it while I was still kinda on my period. And my period is lasting longer.. but is light (my period was always light tho) and is also brownish in color. I also didn't get my period for 3 months (before I started dating my boyfriend) is their something wrong with me? Could I be pregnant?
June 14, 2017 - 9:06pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No, you could not be pregnant because you were still having your period and it was dry humping not unprotected sex.
Maryann
June 15, 2017 - 9:43amThis Comment
Hi me and my boyfriend dry hump last may27. Now its june13 and i still dont have my period. My last period was on apr27. He also fingered me but he did not ejaculate and no semen in his hands. What's wrong with me? I tested last night and it was negative. Is the test accurate?
June 12, 2017 - 5:26pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Missing a period in May is of concern. How old are you?
Retest in the morning. Use the first urine of the day. Then contact your gynecologist.
Regards,
June 13, 2017 - 9:38amMaryann
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