Some women aren’t born knowing how wonderful they are, and they tend to care more about what others think instead of what they think of themselves.
It’s time for women to start loving themselves, because once self-love enters the picture, many other positives will start coming into women's lives. Some examples are happiness, confidence, self-esteem and feeling better overall.
It’s harder than it looks, I know. It’s even more difficult for women to love themselves when so many magazines and products are telling them that they're not good enough and need to buy their products or follow their advice to be worthy. Not all products and advice are bad, and some can lead to a healthier life, but there does need to be a focus first on how a woman is already amazing and doesn’t need tons of makeup to achieve that, or doesn’t need to follow certain diet tips to lose weight and have the “ideal” body. Women are already ideal!
Elizabeth Ward, a psychotherapist in Boston, said in an e-mail that self-love is “loving oneself unconditionally, through thick and thin, taking care of yourself, and being compassionate with yourself.” This can appear in women when they “take time for themselves” and “go easy on themselves when confronted with [a] challenge, rather than blame oneself.”
Some benefits of self-love include being able to love others and treat them well, as well as a healthier self and relationships, and overall happiness, she said. Self-esteem and confidence are connected to self-love as well, but early childhood experiences and relationship models also play a part.
“Our attitude about [ourselves] reflects outward, from our core, to other relationships,” Ward said. “If women are aware about how they treat themselves and what makes them feel good, they can then carry that awareness into other relationships in which they can treat others and be treated by others in similarly respect[ful] ways.”
She said she thinks all women can learn to love themselves, but some women might find it harder than others.