It’s hard to avoid smiling when you’re feeding a furry friend.
5) Don’t use the words “always” and “never” – they make everything seem worse than they really are.
6) Be careful about what you say, both out loud and to yourself. For example, if you constantly complain about your back hurting and exaggerate your pain, most likely it will hurt even more.
7) If you’re angry, count to 10 before you react.
8) Lose people that upset you. Don’t force yourself to deal with certain people. For example, you might come across people who try to be helpful, but they really aren’t assisting you, so avoid them.
9) Put yourself and your needs first, especially when you’re stressed. Don’t focus on being a people-pleaser. This includes saying “no” more often when you can’t accomplish tasks that people request of you, but be nice about it as well.
So how exactly does this daily tip method work? Balch said that once you read and learn the daily tips, they eventually become second nature to you, so you retain the benefits.
On his website, members receive one tip a day through email, text message or voice mail. In order to receive tips and have access to videos, forums, etc., you have to become a member at www.thecopingcommunity.com for either $87 a year, or $9.95 a month.
To view some of the shorter tips for free, you can start a seven-day trial for $1, and you can visit the Twitter account @CopingCommunity. Here is also a free four-part stress training video: www.GetStressTraining.com/
Balch has in total about 200 tips. After you receive a certain number of tips, you will start from the beginning to help reinforce the ideas.
Frank Bevacqua, a psychologist, said in an email that our society is too focused on quick-fix solutions, but when it comes to stress it requires real changes to reduce or eliminate it.
He agrees that traditional techniques don’t work long term because they don’t solve the underlying problems causing the stress. Instead, he has one big technique to prevent future stress.
“We all exhibit patterns, although sometimes we are unaware of them and need others to help point them out,” Bevacqua said.