You can’t always feel like a million dollars, but if you’re constantly feeling poorly about yourself, it’s time to work on improving your self-esteem. In fact, February is Boost Self-Esteem Month, so this is the perfect time to invest in yourself.
Ronald Kaufman, a seminar leader, executive coach and the author of “Anatomy of Success,” said in an email that self-esteem should be associated with positive feelings about oneself.
“We can define self-esteem as liking oneself, feeling good about oneself, being happy with oneself,” Kaufman said. “It’s about having a high regard for oneself, feeling we are worthwhile. This is all based on one’s beliefs, and therefore regardless of someone’s appearance, intelligence, income, popularity, talents, and accomplishments, anyone can have high self-esteem.”
Here are two tips Kaufman has for boosting self-esteem:
1) “Create a list of traits that you feel are true of someone who is worthwhile … [then] write down all traits that would be true of you that would make you feel worthwhile, and use this list as a guide for your decisions, choices, and actions that you take. Staying true to your list will support a high self-esteem regardless of anything else.”
2) “Stop any negative self-talk. If you make a mistake, foul up, or do something inappropriate, instead of calling yourself a jerk, a moron, or a loser, and beating up on yourself, step back and ask yourself, ‘Why did this happen,’ ‘What can I learn from this,’ and ‘What beliefs caused me to do this?’ Only be kind, caring, nurturing, understanding, and empowering of yourself. Otherwise … being hard on yourself could contribute to lower self-esteem and more of the same behavior in the future.”
He said that women tend to have unique self-esteem issues.
“Because of the media and the tremendous emphasis on a woman’s appearance, women have more pressure on their self-esteem than men,” Kaufman said.
However, no matter how hard it may be to have high self-esteem in today’s society, it’s important because self-esteem can affect mental health and life choices in general.