Robyn McKay shares how parents can strengthen the lines of communication with their children.
When parents ask me how to open up communication with their children what I like to suggest is that you start by doing something together. Maybe playing a board game together or playing cards or swinging on the swing and kind of beginning the conversation around that activity and also really focusing on heart-based communication, so communicating with your child from your heart rather than from your head.
So many times we try to convince a child of something or talk them into it, but really first asking yourself how you feel about the topic that you are wanting to bring up and really connecting again with that emotion and then deeply listening to your child as he or she is responding to you as well.
Really, once again, paying attention on purpose, not just to your child’s words, but also to what the feeling that they are evoking in you and that’s a really nice way to just start the conversation.
Also, noticing when you start getting anxious or upset or frustrated can really give you some clues to perhaps how your child is feeling herself as you are having this conversation, and always being willing to call a time out if the conversation gets too heated.