For a great portion of history, anal sex has been considered somewhat of a taboo activity. There are urban myths attached to its consequences and even biblical references to its sinful nature! But why? Sure, there are some things that you must keep in mind when engaging in anal play, but what has made it such a no-no in our social consciousness? After all, your butt is just another body part – and one that happens to have some extremely concentrated pleasure nerves! Definitely worth getting to know better…
I wanted to write this article in an attempt to begin a conversation that uncovers some of the mysteries, breaks down the stigmas surrounding anal sex for women and provide some resources for you to investigate on your own.
But first, a big disclaimer! Anal sex, (like EVERY form of intimacy) should only be practiced between consenting individuals. There is nothing sexy about forcing, threatening, or cajoling a partner into doing something he/she does not want to do. New positions and acts that one or both people are hesitant to take part in should always be prefaced, punctuated by and followed up with conversation.
Being Anal About Anal Sex:
1. Use a condom. Again – use a condom. Your anus is more prone to tearing than your vagina is, which allows for easier transmission of infection and disease (Think: HIV/AIDs and Sexually Transmitted Infections!). Even if you are in a committed relationship with someone you know to be disease-free, a condom is recommended, as it will improve efforts to maintain cleanliness and lubrication. Similarly, if you are using a strap-on or dildo, you should use a condom to prevent transmission of infection via the shared toy. Remember that even when using a condom, no sexual intercourse is risk free and anal sex is associated with some especially high risks.
(Read more at: http://www.fda.gov/forconsumers/byaudience/forpatientadvocates/hivandaidsactivities/ucm126372.htm )
2. Use some form of water-based lube because your anus, unlike your vagina, does not produce its own lubricant. The added moisture will facilitate entry, prevent tearing and enhance pleasure.
(Read more at: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/3426.html)
3. Only use a toy that has a flared bottom. The anus naturally contracts and “sucks up” whatever is put inside it and unlike the vagina, there is no natural barrier or end point to the cavity. This is great if it is a penis, strap-on, finger, anal beads with a handle or toy that’s bottom is wider than the top, but anything that can’t easily be gripped runs the risk of getting stuck inside the anal cavity – an embarrassing doctor’s visit, to say the least.
(Read more at: http://www.theadulttoyshoppe.com/anal-sex-toys-guide.htm)
4. Anal sex is not something you want to try on a whim or as a quickie. Because of the way the anus is structured, you have to stretch the orifice, slowly increasing the size of the object that you penetrate with in order to prevent tearing. Time spent stretching and readying the hole is crucial and can be a really great form of foreplay.
(Read more at: http://sexsecrets.wordpress.com/2007/12/07/10-steps-to-great-first-time-...)
5. It is recommended that you empty your bowels (poop!) within 1.5 hours before attempting anal play. Not only will this enhance pleasure and allow for more space in the anal cavity, but it will also help to assuage the worry that when your partner pulls out, you will accidentally make a mess.
(Read more at: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sexandrelationships/analsex.htm)
6. Take extra precautions for cleanliness; the anus is not naturally a clean part of your body and doesn’t have the same self-cleaning properties that your vagina does. Contact with any of the bacteria that lives in feces can cause infection if it is then introduced to your vagina or other vulnerable openings (ex: mouth). This means you must wash whatever penetrating object is used before again using it for vaginal penetration. Many people also feel most comfortable with anal play just after taking a shower.
(Read more at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sex#Sex_toys)
7. RELAX! Mentally AND physically! You have to believe that it feels good if you want to truly enjoy yourself! On a related note, sometimes anal just won’t work for you. That is perfectly normal. Continue experimenting to find a position that will push your buttons in all the right ways.
(Read more at: http://www.sextherapyinphiladelphia.com/anal_sex__anal_stimulation.htm)
Any other tips? Feel free to comment below. And stay tuned for an upcoming article on WHY anal sex can feel AWESOME for women.
Reviewed July 12, 2011
by Michele Blacksberg R.N.
Add a Comment15 Comments
Thanks so much! I welcome any suggestions/feedback for the best ways to present this somewhat controversial topic!July 27, 2011 - 2:41pm
People whodon't like this should not be made to feel that they ought to.July 17, 2011 - 9:36am
You are absolutely right! No one should ever feel pressured to do anything that they are not comfortable doing - sexual or otherwise. And I'm sure you agree - someone who engages in anal sex should not be made to feel ashamed for what they find pleasurable. Every person is different! And that is a beautiful thing.July 17, 2011 - 5:06pm
NO thanks , the anus was meant for things to pass out not in .the medical hazards are all to well known.July 14, 2011 - 9:38am
Right, just like the oral cavity was specifically designed for fellatio.
There are medical hazards to every sex act, including being self-righteous on the Internet.July 14, 2011 - 10:51am