Dating Coach Joann Cohen offers tips for ending a relationship.
Breaking up and ending a relationship is a really tough and touchy subject. So how do we do it?
First of all we want to make sure that’s what we want to do, that we are very, very clear we want to end the relationship.
Second, when we tell the man we want to be honest but we also want to be kind and one of the rules I suggest to people is, is it true, is it honest, and is it kind?
And that’s what we want to communicate. If it’s not those three things don’t communicate it to the man. You don’t need to say it.
And the third thing is make sure that it’s very clear that the relationship is over. Don’t stay friends. Don’t give him any reasons that if these things work out we might get back together. Close the door completely.
And then fourth, make it short. It doesn’t have to be a week-long conversation. Make it short and to the point and then just move on and allow him to move on.
Finally, how we end relationships is really a reflection of who we are and how we live our life and our values.
So we want to make sure that we are kind, we are respectful and we are treating people the way we want to be treated and how we plan to treat people who are in our lives.
The reason we want to break up the right way is the world is really a small place. That man may very likely reenter your life. You want to be comfortable and know you have done the right thing when you see him again.