Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Sounds great, but it’s not true at all. Of course they can!
Picture a child told her whole life that she is unwanted, unloved, a mistake, a burden ... has she given her consent when she feels less than a person as she grows to adulthood?
The pen is mightier than the sword, my friends, and words can be weapons that can sometimes wound us far worse — and more deeply — than a smack or a shove.
It takes many of us years to be confident, to hold our heads high and to forge ahead in life with gusto. But there are elements that can slowly and subtly infiltrate our lives, causing cracks in our foundation that shake our confidence.
Here are a few to be on guard against:
1) Pinterest and Facebook
Imagine that everyone really lived the lives they portray on these social media sites. Every picture-perfect moment captured on camera, with fresh baked goods on display, artistically designed kids’ rooms, and Instagrammed homemade dinners that would make Wolfgang Puck jealous.
But can seeing these visually perfect projections really affect someone’s confidence in their own parenting, their own marriages and their own homes?
Yes, it can. Because we’re only human and for those of us with see-sawing self-esteem, it becomes easy to believe that everyone around us has it right, while we’re left fumbling to get through the day.
Psychology Today touched on how social media can really affect self-esteem, especially for vulnerable teens and young adults. An article by Ray Williams talked about studies that have been done on the negative effects of social media.
Williams said that research has shown that people can feel stressed about having to update their statuses, presumably feeling the need to make them more exciting or glamorous than real life.
Williams referred to a study by Ethan Kross and his colleagues at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research. "On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection.