Men who cannot accept their own faults and project those feelings onto others, especially their partners, are engaging in a type of emotional abuse that is incredibly damaging.
I am speaking both from personal experience, but also as a master's level counselor (and current doctoral student of clinical psychology). What I noticed just in your post is how you are upset and angry, but instead of feeling validated and supported in your relationship, you are afraid to confront your own fiance. He has stripped you of any power you could have in this relationship. If you are nervous to confront now over some photographs, then think of how bad things could get. I can't tell you what the right or wrong thing to do is, but I encourage you to not bury your own feelings for the sake of avoiding conflict, because those feelings won't go away, and when feelings fester they tend to come out in ugly ways that aren't good for anyone.
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Men who cannot accept their own faults and project those feelings onto others, especially their partners, are engaging in a type of emotional abuse that is incredibly damaging.
I am speaking both from personal experience, but also as a master's level counselor (and current doctoral student of clinical psychology). What I noticed just in your post is how you are upset and angry, but instead of feeling validated and supported in your relationship, you are afraid to confront your own fiance. He has stripped you of any power you could have in this relationship. If you are nervous to confront now over some photographs, then think of how bad things could get. I can't tell you what the right or wrong thing to do is, but I encourage you to not bury your own feelings for the sake of avoiding conflict, because those feelings won't go away, and when feelings fester they tend to come out in ugly ways that aren't good for anyone.
June 8, 2011 - 10:13pmThis Comment
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