i find it hard to have a orgasm

I have never had an orgasm through heterosexual sex either, I think it is quite common. I don't know why some can so easily and others cannot, it may be because of the physical differences in how we are built - maybe if you try someone masturbating you first and then oral sex and then work up to full sex that may be one way to help you. Good luck I think many people can learn to climax, maybe not the way they initally thought but in time.

Monica,

Thank you for your post and welcome to EmpowHer.

I just want to reassure you that you are not alone in the inability to achieve orgasm. One thing I can tell you is that there is nothing wrong with not being able to "climax" unless YOU feel like there is something wrong. Here are some other EmpowHer readers who had the same concern as you:

https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/i-cant-reach-orgasm-what-can-i-do-about-it

https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-cant-i-reach-orgasm

https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-cant-i-have-orgasm

I hope these posts help, feel free to add any additional information you feel we should know.

Best Wishes!