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I have all of the symptoms of chronic fatigue. My doctor doesn't believe in chronic fati

By Anonymous February 17, 2015 - 10:13pm
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I am almost 100% percent sure I have chronic fatigue.

My doctor doesn't believe this disease exists and says it all in my head. I live in Canada in a smallish city. I can't switch family doctors because you're Not allowed to in British Columbia. I am not eligible for assistance and live on a disability into. I have not left my house in month and can no longer stand or walk. I am extremely fatigue with a history of chronic pain from a mistake made during a directory. I have no quality of life and no friends or family. I've had a sore throat for months, I eat very little because I am too weak. I live in complete isolation. How can I find help? I have started to plan the end of my life, tidying up finances and making a will. I used to be a high performing constitution lawyer. My family doctor just laughs at me. I need help but no one will help me. Any advice would help. Thank you, Ruth. I am 57

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So sorry you are having a difficult time. Understand that you are weak, but you need to eat to keep some strength, even if it is soup and multivitamins! Nutrition is important to how you feel.
I am extremely concerned about your being homebound, alone, and it appears depressed, as anyone in your situation would be. Are there social services that could help regarding food delivery, therapy and other services? Perhaps you could call them. Or have you any contacts from your former work that you could reach out to for help? Anybody? Sounds as if you are too ill to handle this by yourself. Please try to find help, I am very concerned for you.

February 21, 2015 - 8:30am

Hello Ruth,

I am truly sorry to hear what you are going through. I am not familiar with the health care system in British Columbia, so my advice is limited.

Chronic fatigue syndrome is a complicated disorder characterized by extreme fatigue that can't be explained by any underlying medical condition. The fatigue may worsen with physical or mental activity, but doesn't improve with rest.

Scientists don't know exactly what causes chronic fatigue syndrome. It may be a combination of factors that affect people who were born with a predisposition for the disorder.

Research suggests some people develop chronic fatigue syndrome after having a viral infection. Researchers question whether some viruses might trigger the disorder. Suspicious viruses include Epstein-Barr virus, human herpes virus 6 and mouse leukemia viruses. No conclusive link has yet been found.

It has been suggested that the immune systems of people who have chronic fatigue syndrome appear to be impaired slightly, but it's unclear if this impairment is enough to actually cause the disorder.

Another thought focuses hormonal imbalances. People who have chronic fatigue syndrome a sometimes experience abnormal blood levels of hormones produced in the hypothalamus, pituitary glands or adrenal glands. But the significance of these abnormalities is still unknown.

You might try avoiding or limiting overexertion and emotional stress. Allow yourself time each day to relax.

Pace yourself by keeping your activity on an even level. If you do too much on your good days, you may have more bad days.

Improve your sleep habits by going to bed and get up at the same time each day. Limit daytime napping and avoid caffeine, alcohol and nicotine.

The most effective treatment for chronic fatigue syndrome appears to be a two-pronged approach that combines psychological counseling with a gentle exercise program.

I do not know if the resources of psychological counseling and physical therapy are available to you.

Please keep in touch if it helps you feel better to reach out to us.


February 18, 2015 - 9:23am

You have my deepest sympathy. I also live with chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS). My doctor also did not believe in my condition -- whatever that is supposed to mean, right? I have been able to see a naturopath whose advice has made a world of difference for me.

Rest is essential, as much as you may hate it. Rest as much as you can. Sleep as much as you can. Lay down, eyes closed, in a quiet place. Take small breaks through the day even if you think you don't need them.

It will help your body manage your tiny reserves of energy.

I take omega 3 oil, vitamin B12, and vitamin D3, these are the supplements that over the last decade have done me noticeable good.

Diet changes can help. I needed to go low carb, it helped a lot. Didn't fix me but helps most symptoms. It might not be low carb for you, but there may be foods contributing to your symptoms. 

There are other things that may help, these are a few. You are not alone. There are so many of us out there. Look for online support groups, there are many for us.

I believe you when you say you are very sick. I wish you well. 


February 18, 2015 - 9:11am
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