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Is my boyfriend not attracted to me anymore ?

By Anonymous April 3, 2015 - 6:18am
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I'm 16, and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. Before we use to have sex often, but now when I ask he's always making excuses. I like having sex with him, and he likes it too... Well that's waht his friends tell me. I always bring it to his attention. I tell him that it makes me feel unattractive and that he doesn't want me anymore. He still touches me and tells me he loves me and stuff. When he talks to me and touches me and stuff he gets me so horny, and then when I'm like babe can we do it he's like "maybe". I feel like I'm always asking for sex, and I don't want him to think I'm desperate. Although, I told him that I don't want our relationship to be based off of that, honestly it helps us bounce back since we've been going through a rough patch. I feel like we get closer every time we have a sexual intercourse. He use to be so clingy to me, afraid that I would leave him and stuff but now it's a sudden change. He doesn't want me to be with anybody else, but he doesn't show me that he wants to be with me, because the lack of communication and sex. I love him to death he's the first person to show me what real love feels like. He fixed my broken heart even if it took a long time. Now he doesn't even want to have sex with me

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thank you for reaching out to us for advice.

As a mother of three young adults, I speak to you as a mother. At 16 years of age, you are still very young and will mature with each passing year. It is understandable that your boyfriend is the great love of your life.

But, people change and what once appeared a challenge to him, like you losing your virginity with him, is no longer a challenge but a conquest.

You are right that a relationship needs to be based on more than sexual attraction.

My advice is to take a break from each other. Maybe, when you are not available, he might be drawn back.


April 3, 2015 - 8:31am
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