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Soreness during frequent sex...

By Anonymous October 14, 2009 - 2:01pm
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I have had the same partner for almost 2 years now. I dont remember any discomfort the first few months we began sleeping together. I actually dont remember any discomfort with any of my past partners. Well, about 6 months into our relationship I began to experience pain upon him entering me. I dont feel any pain until he is about an inch inside of me...This pain only occurs if we have had sex a few hours prior. I feel the pain inside my vaginal wall, not the outside. I have been tested 4 times for infections/std's. Only once did I have bacterial vaginosis, BV. I was treated for that. That was after the 1st Dr visit. We use tons of lube. We have tried about 3 different kinds too. It cant be dryness. Once he gets it all the way in I am ok. If he pulls it out and then puts it back in, it hurts. It feels like there is just one spot that he has to pass then it's ok. strange? The gyno tells me I am fine. No infections and I dont have any tears... Is my partner's penis to "fat" for my vagina entry? This is so frustrating. We have to usually wait 2 days in order for my vagina to be fine to have sex again. Then I am sore again immediatley after the first time we have sex. I can't have sex more than once a day with him or I am way too sore. Help me.. please.

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Thanks to everyone for posting their comments about this issue. I too, have been experiencing this same issue and was beginning to freak out. After being with someone new, after having been with the previous man for ten years, I was beginning to think I was alone. I have come to the conclusion that, my almost 30 year old body, does not bounce back after long period of sex, and that intercourse several times a week maybe a better fit for me, rather than several times a day.

July 27, 2010 - 1:19pm
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Your post sounds as if you think an "almost 30-year old body is OLD?! A woman in her 20s, and 30s, is certainly not "old", so please do not think that your body can not "bounce back" at your young age!

After long periods of sex for any woman, it is difficult to feel as aroused (and, thus, as lubricated), which can cause some friction and uncomfortable sensations. How do you feel about not having sex daily, and how does your partner feel about this?

I honestly am not sure how couples could have sex more than once daily...there are so many other things to do, to enjoy and experience with each other, as well as with our friends, family, co-workers and just with ourselves!

July 27, 2010 - 1:51pm
EmpowHER Guest

I had the same problem for a while. I researched alot online and I read something about fish oil.
Basically, I take two fish oil pills every night and that initial pain went away completely. Seriously, I got to the point where I was scared to have sex just because of that initial pain and it was AWFUL! So I know where you are coming from on this, but try the fish oil thing...its definitely worth it =)

April 1, 2010 - 10:06am
EmpowHER Guest

Hello! I have awesome news! I posted this issue... soreness after sex... Well, after talking about every detail with one of my co workers, we came to the conclusion that it was probably me. I had a habit of spraying my underwear with perfume. I know... duh right? I stopped doing it. Within 1 week I was back to normal. No problems at all what so ever. I can have sex mulitple times a day with no soreness or pain during or after. : )

January 4, 2010 - 2:38pm


Just checking -- may I ask how old you are? Is it possible that you are in perimenopause or even menopause? There are some changes that happen in the vagina that can include painful sex. But I imagine that if this was the case your ob/gyn would have mentioned it to you?

November 2, 2009 - 8:32am
EmpowHER Guest

I just thought of something else I wanted to share too. Think of sex in this way, your consistently rubbing back and forth while engaging in sex. If you take your hand and rub it against your arm for a period of time then do it again periodically throughout the day, your arm will have rubbing burns right? This is the same with the vagina.

I think you are fine, your body just needs time in between rubbing's (no pun intended).

October 31, 2009 - 8:17am
EmpowHER Guest

I agree with Allison on this one. I believe that your body may just be saying enough is enough. If you are trying to pleasure your mate, you can certainly do this in other ways besides sex itself. I think that in this case, the pleasure is still there and your body can take a rest.

I think that the soreness can be caused by several things including the size of your partner. Your body may not be producing enough lubrication after the first time. I wouldn't feel inadequate since I think most women would not be able to have sex several times a day without help of lubrication or other methods.

I hope this makes you feel a little better about yourself. Find pleasure in other ways besides intercourse.

October 31, 2009 - 8:12am
EmpowHER Guest

this is exactly what i have been experiencing and cant for the life of me figure out what is causing it.....help.....

October 31, 2009 - 5:20am
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I just get worried because before him, I could have sex a couple times a day. I just dont understand why now, I cant. I feel like I am not a great sexual partner because "it hurts". Our sex is very pleasurable to me and him. Maybe once a day is enough, but I want to express my love to him as many times as possible. We do engage in other activities other than intercourse... we have to, once I've gotten too sore. I just feel inadequate. I have searched online for a few weeks now and all I find involving soreness are cases of infection... which I do not have. Perhaps I should try a new gyno for a second opinion.

October 16, 2009 - 5:38am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I go through the same thing with my husband, I just let her rest a day between sexual encounters. When we first fell in love we did it like rabbits and we both were very sore. Ten years later we still go at it a lot but "she (vagina)" can't take everyday anymore. I use a little Vaseline and Neosporin on the outside of her after sex, it helps me a lot. Hope this helps.

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