Soreness during frequent sex...
I have had the same partner for almost 2 years now. I dont remember any discomfort the first few months we began sleeping together. I actually dont remember any discomfort with any of my past partners. Well, about 6 months into our relationship I began to experience pain upon him entering me. I dont feel any pain until he is about an inch inside of me...This pain only occurs if we have had sex a few hours prior. I feel the pain inside my vaginal wall, not the outside. I have been tested 4 times for infections/std's. Only once did I have bacterial vaginosis, BV. I was treated for that. That was after the 1st Dr visit. We use tons of lube. We have tried about 3 different kinds too. It cant be dryness. Once he gets it all the way in I am ok. If he pulls it out and then puts it back in, it hurts. It feels like there is just one spot that he has to pass then it's ok. strange? The gyno tells me I am fine. No infections and I dont have any tears... Is my partner's penis to "fat" for my vagina entry? This is so frustrating. We have to usually wait 2 days in order for my vagina to be fine to have sex again. Then I am sore again immediatley after the first time we have sex. I can't have sex more than once a day with him or I am way too sore. Help me.. please.
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I'm sure I am going to state the obvious, but after being checked by a gynecologist for possible infections/diseases (great for you!!), using lots of lubrication, then the recommended advice would be: "if it hurts, don't do it".
Do you think your body is trying to tell you "enough!", that sex once per day is perfect, and any more than that is not pleasurable? Since you are able to have sex without pain the first time during the day, then it does not sound like there is a medical problem. Are you feeling pressured by guilt (yours or his) if you "only" have sex once per day? For many women, it is pleasurable to be intimate in other ways-- to expand your sexual repertoire---by not having intercourse every time and use more creativity and imagination in exploring and discovering each other's bodies. Do you think your body is telling you something that your mind does not want to admit? Are you wishing that you could have more touching and exploring time, or intimate talks, without the "cop out" of intercourse? (It may not be a "cop out"; I understand you may be the one pushing for sex multiple times per day, but just used that phrase to be the voice of your body as a devil's advocate...many women DO feel that their male partner begins penetration too early and sex is over quickly before they felt really aroused or had enough time to feel pleasure from touching and being close).
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I just get worried because before him, I could have sex a couple times a day. I just dont understand why now, I cant. I feel like I am not a great sexual partner because "it hurts". Our sex is very pleasurable to me and him. Maybe once a day is enough, but I want to express my love to him as many times as possible. We do engage in other activities other than intercourse... we have to, once I've gotten too sore. I just feel inadequate. I have searched online for a few weeks now and all I find involving soreness are cases of infection... which I do not have. Perhaps I should try a new gyno for a second opinion.
this is exactly what i have been experiencing and cant for the life of me figure out what is causing it.....help.....
I agree with Allison on this one. I believe that your body may just be saying enough is enough. If you are trying to pleasure your mate, you can certainly do this in other ways besides sex itself. I think that in this case, the pleasure is still there and your body can take a rest.
I think that the soreness can be caused by several things including the size of your partner. Your body may not be producing enough lubrication after the first time. I wouldn't feel inadequate since I think most women would not be able to have sex several times a day without help of lubrication or other methods.
I hope this makes you feel a little better about yourself. Find pleasure in other ways besides intercourse.
I just thought of something else I wanted to share too. Think of sex in this way, your consistently rubbing back and forth while engaging in sex. If you take your hand and rub it against your arm for a period of time then do it again periodically throughout the day, your arm will have rubbing burns right? This is the same with the vagina.
I think you are fine, your body just needs time in between rubbing's (no pun intended).