ask: Soreness during frequent sex...

I'm sure I am going to state the obvious, but after being checked by a gynecologist for possible infections/diseases (great for you!!), using lots of lubrication, then the recommended advice would be: "if it hurts, don't do it".

Do you think your body is trying to tell you "enough!", that sex once per day is perfect, and any more than that is not pleasurable? Since you are able to have sex without pain the first time during the day, then it does not sound like there is a medical problem. Are you feeling pressured by guilt (yours or his) if you "only" have sex once per day? For many women, it is pleasurable to be intimate in other ways-- to expand your sexual repertoire---by not having intercourse every time and use more creativity and imagination in exploring and discovering each other's bodies. Do you think your body is telling you something that your mind does not want to admit? Are you wishing that you could have more touching and exploring time, or intimate talks, without the "cop out" of intercourse? (It may not be a "cop out"; I understand you may be the one pushing for sex multiple times per day, but just used that phrase to be the voice of your body as a devil's advocate...many women DO feel that their male partner begins penetration too early and sex is over quickly before they felt really aroused or had enough time to feel pleasure from touching and being close).

Let us know your thoughts!

I just get worried because before him, I could have sex a couple times a day. I just dont understand why now, I cant. I feel like I am not a great sexual partner because "it hurts". Our sex is very pleasurable to me and him. Maybe once a day is enough, but I want to express my love to him as many times as possible. We do engage in other activities other than intercourse... we have to, once I've gotten too sore. I just feel inadequate. I have searched online for a few weeks now and all I find involving soreness are cases of infection... which I do not have. Perhaps I should try a new gyno for a second opinion.

this is exactly what i have been experiencing and cant for the life of me figure out what is causing it.....help.....

I agree with Allison on this one. I believe that your body may just be saying enough is enough. If you are trying to pleasure your mate, you can certainly do this in other ways besides sex itself. I think that in this case, the pleasure is still there and your body can take a rest.

I think that the soreness can be caused by several things including the size of your partner. Your body may not be producing enough lubrication after the first time. I wouldn't feel inadequate since I think most women would not be able to have sex several times a day without help of lubrication or other methods.

I hope this makes you feel a little better about yourself. Find pleasure in other ways besides intercourse.

I just thought of something else I wanted to share too. Think of sex in this way, your consistently rubbing back and forth while engaging in sex. If you take your hand and rub it against your arm for a period of time then do it again periodically throughout the day, your arm will have rubbing burns right? This is the same with the vagina.

I think you are fine, your body just needs time in between rubbing's (no pun intended).

Anon,

Just checking -- may I ask how old you are? Is it possible that you are in perimenopause or even menopause? There are some changes that happen in the vagina that can include painful sex. But I imagine that if this was the case your ob/gyn would have mentioned it to you?

Hello! I have awesome news! I posted this issue... soreness after sex... Well, after talking about every detail with one of my co workers, we came to the conclusion that it was probably me. I had a habit of spraying my underwear with perfume. I know... duh right? I stopped doing it. Within 1 week I was back to normal. No problems at all what so ever. I can have sex mulitple times a day with no soreness or pain during or after. : )

I had the same problem for a while. I researched alot online and I read something about fish oil.
Basically, I take two fish oil pills every night and that initial pain went away completely. Seriously, I got to the point where I was scared to have sex just because of that initial pain and it was AWFUL! So I know where you are coming from on this, but try the fish oil thing...its definitely worth it =)

Thanks to everyone for posting their comments about this issue. I too, have been experiencing this same issue and was beginning to freak out. After being with someone new, after having been with the previous man for ten years, I was beginning to think I was alone. I have come to the conclusion that, my almost 30 year old body, does not bounce back after long period of sex, and that intercourse several times a week maybe a better fit for me, rather than several times a day.