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Miriam Shares If Sex After 60 Is Boring (VIDEO)

Miriam explains if sex after 60 years old is always boring.

Miriam:
My name is Miriam Hinrich, I just turned 60, and I would like to talk about sexuality at this age. Many, many, many of my girlfriends at this age are really, really not interested in sex. Whoever I talk to, they would rather just forget about it. They would rather their husband did not approach them. They would rather just forget about the whole thing, and it could be also a biological natural cause because once you are past childbearing and your hormones decline, maybe you are not really interested in sex because you do not have the drive that may be a male has because he has to continue planting his seed, but we stop producing our babies.

So may be biologically there is a difference there, but what I find that for intimacy in a marriage to work, sex is really very, very important. It is not the most important, but it is important to keep it going so that there is intimacy, they need to please each other because I know that by having sex you know what works for your partner and you know what works for yourself. You’re much more, if you are comfortable with your partner or your husband, you are much more vocal about what your needs are and you know how to please the other person.

So, that in itself, being so honest creates the intimacy that with age maybe you lose a little bit and, whatever works for you to keep that going, if it is telling dirty stories or watching dirty movies, or having an extra glass of wine or whatever it takes to keep it going I am prepared to do it because I think it is very important. And if you kind of sweep it on the carpet and you are not in the mood and, women are hardly ever in the mood anymore at that age, they really are not unless they have a new lover. But. I think that it is very important to keep going and the way I keep it going with my husband is we decide on a date. We say, okay we have date. Tonight we have a date. And then we know that tonight we are not going to watch the news with all the bad news on the television, so we are going to have a romantic dinner, we are going to have candlelights, we are going to prepare mentally for it so it is not like, “Are in the mood tonight? Oh, no? Okay goodnight.”

So it is really a process and I think that really works for us that we decide tonight we have a date and so, we prepare for it mentally, and we prepare for it whatever it takes. If it is props, I know of some people like dressing up, some people like walking with high heels, some people like, whatever it takes. I think it is very important to just keep it going. I know what works for me and I know what works for my husband and I just do the things that I know works for us. For other people it could be other things. But it is very important just to really keep it going. That is my advice.

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