Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Thank you, your reply gave me some peice if mind but I took two pregnancy tests out of me being paranoid and they both said negative but there’s still no sign of my period. At this point I don’t know what’s wrong? My nurse said it could be because i turned vegan a year ago and I went from a size 15 to a size 3 and I work out every single day. I’m also under a lot of stress but I’m 17 and i have never missed a period. Are there any logical explanations why I’m not having my monthly period? I keep looking online for answers and every website says I could be pregnant which doesn’t help my anxiety. Please help
March 29, 2019 - 10:23pmThis Comment
Hello Anon
Over-exercise and extreme weight loss are two key reasons for no longer getting periods.
It's good to be fit and healthy but it sounds like you may be taking it too far. Exercise every other day and allow a little weight gain and see what happens. Becoming vegan may cause some people to lose some weight but a proper vegan diet should not cause a person to drop so many sizes unless you are under 5 feet tall.
You're not pregnant.
Best,
April 1, 2019 - 1:43pmSusan
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So me and my bf were fully clothed (I was wearing jeans underwear and a pad) (he was wearing jeans shorts and underwear) and my period isn’t coming yet. Can this cause pregnancy? The symptoms I’m feeling rn are some minor cramps and sore boobs. Recently I felt a sharp pain in my lower right
March 1, 2019 - 2:44pmThis Comment
Hello, Anon.
Take the time to read through the article and comments. You can't get pregnant this way.
Helena
March 1, 2019 - 6:18pmThis Comment
My boyfriend and I were dry humping I was wearing under wear pajama pants and a pad I was on my period and he wasn’t wearing anything I felt wet on my pants not sure if it soaked through or not I’m super worried could I be pregnant
February 27, 2019 - 11:14pmThis Comment
Hello Anon
February 28, 2019 - 3:34pmAs mentioned in the article above, a woman has to have actual intercourse (naked) and be ovulating in order to get pregnant, even if a man was naked. So there is no risk in your situation.
Best,
Susan
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Hi, me and my boyfriend were both dry humping standing up, me with jeans on and him with joggers. I noticed after a couple minutes he had a wet spot on his pants. Could this soak through mine and get me pregnant??
December 30, 2018 - 6:37amThis Comment
what happen? please reply im scared
January 5, 2019 - 12:59amThis Comment
Hello.
Take the time to read through the article and posts.
Sperm will not pass through a layer of clothing. You can't get pregnant this way.
Helena
December 30, 2018 - 7:11amThis Comment
Hello,
December 24, 2018 - 12:11amYesterday my girlfriend and I were fooling around and grinding, each with underwear on, penis on top of vagina. After around 5 minutes we stopped and I noticed a spot on my underwear was damp from my pre-ejaculate. I proceeded to freak out and am wondering if there is the slightest chance of her becoming pregnant by the pre-ejaculate soaking through? She is due her period any day now, once she has her period does that rule out the possibility of pregnancy?
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