Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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hi, my boyfriend & i were having dry sex. we both had shorts and underwear on & when i got up, his shorts were wet & so we're mines. i think he ejaculated but im not sure if it got through my underwear. could the sperm swim past the 4 layers on clothes and into my vagina ?
could i be pregnant ?
thanks !
June 24, 2011 - 9:53pmThis Comment
My girlfriend and I dry humped a few days ago and her period was supposed to be today and I was just wondering if she's pregnant?
June 20, 2011 - 8:30pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
Your girlfriend can't get pregnant through dry humping.
Thanks for your question,
Rosa
June 21, 2011 - 8:06amThis Comment
Okay. Thank you I've just been extremely worried! Thank you:)
June 21, 2011 - 11:41amThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
Dry humping consists of clothing being on and without the contact of sperm entering the vagina, you will not become pregnant.
I hope this helps.
May 21, 2011 - 9:56amMissie
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hi
May 21, 2011 - 7:32ami just want to ask about dry humping
what about if the girl was wearing a jogging pants and the boy was wearing tokong pants, after dry humping and being fingered.. will the girl be pregnant?
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This really helped a lot. Thank you!
May 3, 2011 - 5:28pmThis Comment
Hello, last week my boyfriend and I were dry humping in his car. I was on top, and I was wet from him rubbing me through my pants earlier. He didn't ejaculate, and he claims that there was barely any pre-ejaculate present as well. I wasn't humping the head of his penis, but more on the middle or base of it. I'm pretty sure that this cannot generate a pregnancy. However, if there was pre-ejaculate present, could the sperm penetrate through 4 layers of clothes (I had on underwear & jeans and he had on boxers & athletic shorts) and cause a pregnancy? Again, I was pretty wet from him rubbing me before, but he was not wet. Also, it kinda hurt when we were dry humping. Why is that?
May 2, 2011 - 9:56amThis Comment
There is no chance of pregnancy from your description.
- -Your boyfriend would need to ejaculate in order for a pregnancy to occur.
- Pre-cum does not contain sperm (there are certain situations that it might, this is not one of them).
- Sperm can not penetrate through one layer of clothing (and you had a combined four layers)
Please re-read this article, as all of this information is explained directly above your question.
May 3, 2011 - 9:27amThis Comment
Hello, last week my boyfriend and I were dry humping in his car. I was on top, and I was wet from him rubbing me through my pants earlier. He didn't ejaculate, and he claims that there was barely any pre-ejaculate present as well. I wasn't humping the head of his penis, but more on the middle or base of it. I'm pretty sure that this cannot generate a pregnancy. However, if there was pre-ejaculate present, could the sperm penetrate through 4 layers of clothes (I had on underwear & jeans and he had on boxers & athletic shorts) and cause a pregnancy? Again, I was pretty wet from him rubbing me before, but he was not wet. Also, it kinda hurt when we were dry humping. Why is that?
May 2, 2011 - 9:56amThis Comment