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By October 27, 2011 - 8:52am

Just found this website and I am very impressed. I have been an addict to priscription pain pills for twenty years. I have been clean for a year and a half, I am in NA have a sponser and I am working the steps.Going to meeting always give me a new found understanding of my own problem. But my anxiety issues hold me back from talking to others that I don't know. How can I get over my shyness?

By HERWriter Guide November 18, 2011 - 12:36pm

Hi Debjar

I'm sorry you are dealing with such shyness and I understand a speech impediment can make it worse.

Think to yourself - what's the worst case scenario that could happen if you approached people to say hi. The worst thing is that they'd walk away from lack of interest, right? That has happened to lots of us, including outgoing people!

If it does happen - shrug, walk away and try somewhere else. I know that sounds impossible but you kind of have to - otherwise nothing will ever change in your life.

Have you thought about talking to someone who can help you with this - a lifecoach, maybe?


November 18, 2011 - 12:36pm
By November 16, 2011 - 4:31pm

I was always shy. Espesially around new people I have a speech Impediment from a cleft palate and it makes me uncomfortable when someone asks me to repeat what I just said. I have a hard time letting my walls down even with people I know,but on the other hand when I get to know people I will do small talk but no serious discusions

November 16, 2011 - 4:31pm
By HERWriter Guide November 13, 2011 - 2:56pm

Hi Debjar


Were you shy and introverted during the 20 years that you were addicted to pills or is this something new you are discovering about yourself?

Getting over anxiety can take time but counseling might be what you need - even group counseling , which sounds a bit paradoxical, but it might be good to be around other people who are going through the same thing.

Another thing is that like any other ambition, practice is needed. Practice saying hello to the greeter at a store, ask people how they are doing, make small talk for now. W

Where is your anxiety coming from, Debjar? Are you afraid people won't  talk back to you - are you afraid of rejection? Have you been rejected before?

If you can answer my questions, that will help us help you more!


November 13, 2011 - 2:56pm

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