November 5, 2010 - 12:34pm
My husband and I have been together for 4years now. We have been
married for almost two years, and we now have a 6months baby girl.
Life seemed great till recently, once my baby girl was born I notice
we began to fight more often as well as being intimate less and less.
About a month ago he shared with me that he could not be happy and
he was confused of his feelings towards me. He shared that he cared
for me but wasn't sure if he loved me, he also shared that he had been
depress for some time now. I feel like I must also share, he spent
15months in Iraq and returned in Nov of 08, in Aug of 09 my father in
law took his life. So I could understand him being depress, the past two
years has been really rough.He lost a lot of friends in Iraq, one whom was
very close to him as well as his father. Since we've been married he has always had nightmares of Iraq. I always asked him to get help but it wasn't till recently that he decided to get help and talk to someone through the V.A (he is no longer active duty)
We also decided to seperate because I wanted him to clear his head and figure
out how he felt. We were seperated for about a month. And a few days ago
he asked to move back in and shared how much he loved and care for me.
But now I noticed he has become a different person. He seems upset all the
time to the point it makes me nervous. He has never got upset at
me or our baby but he does get upset over little things
like not finding parking or people not answering their phones he also
is starting to put down people and family members without even honestly
thinking till someone tells him something. It is now starting to
depress me, I feel like I have to be on my toes around him sometimes..
any advice how to go about this? He has told me that he wish he could
see his counselor more often because he does feel angry all the time
and it is hard to control himself at times.
(sorry if this double posts)