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By June 13, 2016 - 10:32am

okay so my child's father left when I was pregnant and we have been talking on and off for the past three years and he has not met his child yet and our son is almost 2. My sons father lives in another state and has severe health issues and i really want my son to meet his father just in case he passes away but what if your family don't want you to go to another state for them to meet but that's the only way for them to meet do you just do what you think is right and fallow your heart? Or do you regret them never meeting each other?

By June 22, 2016 - 3:17pm

Me and my sons father had a bad start and my family really don't like him and that got in the way of our relationship. It has been 3 years since I have seen him and we have both grown up a lot and we have agreed to gives things a try one more time even though I am getting called names by my family and there not supportive at all. I believe in my heart that I am doing what is right for my son and for myself.

June 22, 2016 - 3:17pm
By HERWriter Guide June 13, 2016 - 1:12pm

Hi mamabear14


This is a decision that only you can make, not your family.  And your decision has to be in the best interests of you child and nobody else. 

If his health problems are serious enough that he may die and you think this man means well, a visit may be ok but your son, not yet two, will not remember this visit so it wouldn't actually do your son any good.  He'll remember it short-term certainly. 

Are you going to explain to him who this man is?  Will it confuse your son? Will he wonder why his Daddy doesn't live close to him?  Will his death confuse him even more?  If it's 'yes' to a lof of these questions, it's probably not a good idea. 

To introduce a father who may or may not be a part of the child's life is tricky.  Why has he never been a part of his life before this? 



June 13, 2016 - 1:12pm

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