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His he cheating?

By January 5, 2012 - 11:21pm

I recently found out that my fiance of 5 years sent pictures of his hard penis to a female co-worker that at the time he was taking to work every day. when I confronted him he swear he wasnt cheating so i believed him, but ever since he doesnt wanted to have sex with me he saids hes tired or he just doesnt want to. Please help I need some advice.

By HERWriter Guide January 15, 2012 - 6:19pm

Hi atreyuJJ

Thanks for your question and welcome!

It depends on what you call cheating. For many women, a fiance who is sexting with a co-worker is cheating and quite frankly, sending pics of his erect penis to his co-worker is a) utterly disrespectful to you although he probably tells her you're cool with it and b) could get him fired and/or brought up for sexual harassment if she changes her mind and decides this isn't fun anymore. 

Right now, all you know is that he's sending sexually explicit pictures out (and probably to more than just his co-worker and also think about what she or others are sending back that he is then deleting or forwarding to a secret email before deleting - this is very common) but if he's also refusing sex, he's punishing you for confronting him and may be having sex elsewhere.

I understand you believe he is not cheating. But do you think he'd actually answer "yes I am but I'll stop!"? Of course he will deny it! No man is just going to say "Uh-huh, yep, I'm cheating! Thanks for asking!" 

If you are looking for an opinion on your question - is he cheating - my answer would be yes. Besides, what kind of man does that? It's gross!

Good luck to you and I hope you both can work things out.


January 15, 2012 - 6:19pm

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