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I'm 19 and i just recently lost my mom to cancer. i just wanna know im not the only one..

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How are you dealing with the loss of a loved one?

By Angelica February 17, 2011 - 3:46pm

I lost my nephew to cancer almost three years ago, he was only 13. It hasn't been easy and on my saddest days I think of him and smile (through the tears at times). We were so blessed to have him in our lives even if it was for a short period of time. I know we all grieve differently, but how do you cope with the pain, loss, loneliness or sadness?

By Susan Cody HERWriter Guide September 29, 2012 - 1:28pm

Hi All

Thank you for sharing all your stories - losing a loved one to cancer is often a long and really sad and frightening time. It's good to know that there is always hope and that life does go on, albeit in a different way.

Susan

September 29, 2012 - 1:28pm
By speedymom01 September 20, 2012 - 4:06pm

Hello to everyone in this group! I just want to say to everyone who's lost a loved one(s) to cancer that I share your pain and loss also and I wish you the peace, courage, and strength to go on another day. I lost my mom to breast & ovarian cancer in March 2010, just a few days before Easter and her birthday. It didn't really hit me that she was gone, for weeks because I was walking around in a deep fog and everywhere I went I swore I could hear/see her. It's been almost 3 yrs. since she passed and the pain has lessened by a few degrees. Holidays are hardest because I haven't been the same since, but I know she's always there looking out for my son and I. When I'm having a day where I can't stop crying, I see a sign that tells me she's thinking of me and not to be sad anymore. The pain lessens, eventually, it doesn't feel as brand new after awhile. One day at a time is all you can do. I hope I've given hope to anyone that reads this, and that your life will go on. Love, peace, and happiness be with you.

September 20, 2012 - 4:06pm
By AnnaTaty13 September 8, 2012 - 6:52pm

Hi I am 15 years old and in the last few years I have lost 6 people in my family. And when i was only 4 I lost my grandmother to ovarian cancer. She was not feeling well for a while but the doctors just saying it was nothing and when they finally found the cancer it was way too late she died 3 months later. I may have only been 4 but i remember her and miss her. Last year I lost my other grandmother to cancer and when I think of the first thing that comes to mind is how she was always telling me to smile and I woulden't. Advice to everyone please don't do anything like that the regret I have for not smilling like she would tell me, is at times almost unbarable. Whenever I think about her or talk about her I end of crying, I was really close to her and I rode my bike to her house all the time and slept over as much as possible. I went out for ice cream with her one night and the next morning she was found dead on her bathroom floor, so you never know if this will be the last time you see someone.

September 8, 2012 - 6:52pm
By iamstillawoman July 24, 2012 - 3:42am

I don't think it gets easier, you just get used to the pain. Thats one that never goes away. I am on a breast cancer battle and I have no mother. I am afraid, I never want my kids to live with out me while they are still needing me. I guess they will always need me, but 18, 20 hand 21 is to young not to have me. I am fighting hard, I guess this story is still being written.

July 24, 2012 - 3:42am
By iamstillawoman July 24, 2012 - 3:38am

Hard to loose a parent. We think they are going to be here to save us forever. My mum gone now 13 years from ovarian cancer, life sucks with no mother.
Your not alone, hope your ok.

July 24, 2012 - 3:38am
By Danyzina February 16, 2012 - 11:02am

My father is dying from cancer, he is in hospital now. For a long time I was independant because I did not understand how he loved me very much. For a long time I had to deal with internal and external conflicts because we are both anxious persons. Of course he had more self-assurance, more than me in several things. Now he is going away, I am 47 yrs old but very alone in life. So alone I have to write to strangers in a website. I cannot recognized him in his bed, and he is fully aware of what is happenning to him. I feel like immitating him after he is gone but we are very different. He succeed where I could not. I could talk very long about him. I did it before in my life.

February 16, 2012 - 11:02am
By tylersmama1224 January 28, 2012 - 2:35am

I lost my mother at 19 to breast cancer. She beat everyone's expectations and survived 6 years after her first diagnosis, three of which she was in remission. It came back again though and killed her within five months. She would have been 57 on the 18th of this month. It has been almost five years and it still hurts just like she died yesterday. She never got to meet my son or share my wedding or son's birth, but I know she is watching over me and my son.

January 28, 2012 - 2:35am
By cfleischman December 20, 2011 - 11:05pm

The holidays are especially hard this year, especially since the death of my mother in March and then my father in September of this year. My mother had ovarian cancer and my father had lung cancer. People tell me it gets easier and I'm waiting for that day when I don't shed tears. I started grief counseling and that seems to help. I am grateful for my loving family and friends to help get me through my heartache. May you all cherish your loved ones who have passed and those who are still with you today:)

December 20, 2011 - 11:05pm
By hkenney September 15, 2011 - 10:28am

Hi everyone,
I can definitely identify with your experiences. I've unfortunately lost 3 family members to cancer. The hardest was probably my sister, who passed away when I was 14 and she was 30. About a year ago my other sister was diagnosed with cancer, but thankfully she is in remission. Cancer is such a horrific illness, and it is unbelievably difficult to watch a loved one go through it.
Some ways that I have found to help copy are (like you said) to look at pictures and talk about my sister and other family members to help keep their memory alive. Sometimes, when I really miss them, I even talk to them as if they were here, because I feel that they are.
Another helpful thing you can do is to talk openly about it to your network of friends and loved ones. Awareness and early prevention is key to beating cancer, so maybe by talking to them you can help prevent the same thing from happening to someone else.

Blessings and good thoughts to you all. I know it's hard.

September 15, 2011 - 10:28am
By LeBondGirl April 26, 2011 - 2:00am

Hi, I lost my mother last August. It was her third bout with cancer. I'm completly lost, I have spent the last 22 years aiding her and now I'm not quite sure why I am here. Don't get me wrong I am not suicidal. In the last 22 years I have focused on her and now that she is not here, I constantly ask myself now what do I want to do... that's a tough one, I am not sure.
That's about it for now, will talk again soon. Thanks for reading.

April 26, 2011 - 2:00am