Do I stay or do I go?
I have been with my boyfriend for the past two years. I'm 28, he's 30. We knew each other about 14 years ago, took each others virginity, and stopped talking up until two years ago. We've been through a lot together..drugs, and living a hard life, but have both managed to get and stay sober. A few months ago I found a cell phone of his, turned it on and found him talking to another girl, on pretty much a daily basis. He had been lying to me for months about who he was with and what he was doing..all this time he was with this other girl. Long story short, I called him out..I was hurt and upset. He swore to me that nothing was going on with her, that he loved and wanted to be with me. Since then, I'm lucky if we have sex once every couple weeks, he always seems agitated with me, and doesn't really care for me the way he used to. Obviously I don't trust him. It still hurts, if anything more now that I've given him a second chance. I'm trying to learn how to love myself more than him so I can kick him to the curb. That's what I'm having trouble with. Any tips on how to get over this is greatly appreciated!