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Emotional roller coaster about sex

By Linnea August 24, 2011 - 11:05pm

One minute my boyfriend is asking me why I don't talk about how great he is in bed anymore, and the next he accuses me of being sex obsessed and that all I want him for is sex. I’m literally damned if I do, damned if I don’t. I’m on a roller coaster – how do I get off? I do like sex with him, I admit it. But I’m starting not to want sex with him anymore, because regardless of how good he is physically, it’s becoming increasingly emotionally traumatic, and I’m not an automaton who can go a week with nothing but rejection and then just turn on the desire once a week on schedule and then turn it off again as soon as it’s not convenient. Suggestions, anyone?

By Susan Cody HERWriter Guide Leader August 28, 2011 - 4:40pm

Hi Linnea

Thanks for your post.

It sounds like your boyfriend is on a roller coaster, rather than you - and he's making you go along for the ride whether you like it or not!

It sounds like he's either feeling guilty about something, is testing you or something else is going on with him that you don't know about - but is manifesting itself in his sexual relationship with you.
How long has this been going on - and what else is going on in his life at the moment? Have you sat down and really asked him what's going on? His treatment of you is not acceptable and you do not have to put up with this!
~Susan

August 28, 2011 - 4:40pm