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I really do not like oral sex. Is there something wrong with me?

By November 10, 2010 - 5:18pm

My husband does a superb job and I usually have an orgasm every time he gives me oral sex. But it often takes me a bottle of wine just to let it happen. At first I thought it was because I smelled, but even right after a shower... I still do not want him to go down "there".
He absolutely loves giving and receiving oral sex, so now it has become a problem in our sex life. I'm stuck and he's frustrated!

By HERWriter Guide November 12, 2010 - 9:09am

Hi mickie

Thanks for your post!

There is nothing 'wrong' with you - everyone has things about sex that they like and dislike.

But in this case, it seems the problem may be an inhibition you have, rather than "not liking" oral sex. Your husband is really good at it and you orgasm nearly every time (a great track record!) but I think you have fears about it that prevent you from relaxing enough to enjoy it.

If you are clean and infection free, there is no need to worry about a 'smell down there' and even if you haven't just taken a shower or bath, you can always use gentile wipes for that purpose, before you have sex.

But since that doesn't seem to be a fear of yours anymore, can you tell me what you feel about oral sex?
- Do you feel that this part of your body is unattractive?
- Have you ever been told that?
-Have you ever had a bad sexual relationship with someone or an abusive one?
-Were you taught that oral sex in general is something dirty?

Also - do you have issues with performing oral sex on him, or is it just on you? Try to think about how you feel when you think about a man performing on you? What feelings occur? Anger? A feeling of being dirty? Unease? Shyness? Bad memories?

Let me know a little more what the act of oral sex means to you in your mind and I hope to hear back from you soon!

November 12, 2010 - 9:09am

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