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By October 31, 2010 - 6:08am

I don’t know from where to start right now i m suffering from very big problm I don’t know how to tackle .Plz help me i wiil be thankfull to u.

I m 25 year old and he is 28 year old.He is not good looking but i m ok.
He is a chain smoker and have drugs like (joint, charas).he is my boy friend from last 3 months he is my collalege.we dnt have sex but even though he is very possessive for me. He dnt like when i talking to other person. He alwzs take it wrong way.i dnt knw why
if i say anything alwzs take it wrong way. So many time i tell him that i cnt marry u dnt get possesive for me no use. But he will never change.

One day i talk to him about our relationship that we don’t understand each other i think we dnt need to continue this relation we are nt made for each other. He gets mad he said
i will kill myself. He goes to balcony and just wants to kill him. I dnt know how can i tackle him.

But now i m feed up of him my love is over for him after seen his behavior.
He said i will kill myself if u left me and write a note that you r responsible for my death.
Plz help me how can i tackle him how can i get him away from my life.

If my suicide is the solution plz tell me that i can also do that.
Help me I dnt want to die

By HERWriter Guide October 31, 2010 - 7:38am

Hi lifesucks

Thanks for your question and welcome to EmpowHER.

Firstly, suicide is never a good option, if you feel in anyway that you may feel like killing yourself, call 911 or the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

If your boyfriend abuses you, or ever touches you (in a violent way and that means a push, shove, slap - anything) call the police.

You have been dating your boyfriend for 3 months now and clearly you are not a good match for each other; it's not your fault. Dating is all about finding a partner that compliments you and vice versa - someone who makes you feel good and someone you have a lot in common with. So this person is not for you (perhaps for no-one, if he treats women this way) and since you have only been dating a short time with no commitments, it's best to end the relationship now. Someday, when you feel ready - you'll find a man who treats you well and make you happy.

The fact that he is telling you that he will kill himself if you leave him is very manipulative and very, very wrong. He has no right to do this to you. He will not kill himself if you leave him and you cannot be held accountable for anything he says or does afterward.

Is this some kind of arranged relationship? Who set you up with this man and why do you feel like you cannot leave him? I think it's very important that you DO leave him and leave him immediately. Is there someone you can talk to that can help you with this?

Please write back as soon as you can so that we can help you more. It's very important that you leave this person and are in a safe environment afterward.

I look forward to hearing back from you,

October 31, 2010 - 7:38am

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