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By November 11, 2011 - 9:06am

I had a relationship of sorts with a man about a year ago; our relationship was physical, but there was a really deep emotional connection. After months and months of not getting the attention I think I deserved (he is a busy business owner, but I believe that people make time for the things they want), I cut off all contact with him; which in hindsight I realize was a little bit much. I never told him how I really felt ie:I have serious feelings for you.

After seeing him around recently I've realize that the feelings I had for him are still very much alive and well. I have tried to move on, and my friends tell me that I should forget about him; but I wonder, should I tell him how I feel? I am deathly afraid of rejection; but I fear I will never be able to get over him if I don't.

Help ladies, I need guidance.

By HERWriter Guide December 2, 2011 - 4:51pm

Hi again Bianca

Looking dumb is something we all do - or have done. Whether it's with love, work, friendships or catching our dress in the top of our hose and showing our butts to the world - we've all looked dumb!

You're going to have to take a chance here. And risk rejection. Guys do it with women all the time and get rejected all the time! So call him or stop by to talk to him the next time you see him. Don't ask him out. Just ask him how he is, be warm but don't overdo it. Then mention you lost your phone. Tell him you've had to spend ages on your address book again (which is true) and give him your new number. If he is interested, he'll call.

Good luck, I'm interested to know how things work out!


December 2, 2011 - 4:51pm
By November 26, 2011 - 3:03pm


This reply couldn't be more timely; as I just saw the man in question yesterday.

In response to your question, when I stopped contacting him, I don't know how he reacted; I happened to lose my phone and got a new phone and new number. And when we see each other, I feel a spark, but I am unsure as to whether I feel something cause it's there or because I want it to be there. I am not very familiar with relationships as I haven't had many in my life.

I am unsure how he feels; and my fear of rejections and "looking dumb" stops me from asking him.

Thank you for your advice; love is certainly hard...


November 26, 2011 - 3:03pm
By HERWriter Guide November 26, 2011 - 1:08pm

Hi Vitality Bianca

Thank you for your post!

There are a couple of things to think about.

Firstly, it's obvious that you are feeling love as well as lust, which is actually wonderful in a relationship! But does he feel the same way about you? Since you left him, has he made any attempt to win you back? I don't want to sound negative but were you more of a sexual relationship to him, rather than his girlfriend? Be careful not to waste your time on a man who only wants you for sex - or when it's convenient to him.

He may feel like you aren't interested and thinks it's best to leave things as they are. If that's the case, a word from you might get you back on track again.

But if he really is interested in you, why isn't he making any moves? Since we don't know how he feels, it's not for us to know.

When you ended things, how was he? How did he react? When you see him now, how does he react now? I totally understand you not wanting to be rejected (who does?) but if you think he may have an interest, you may just have to take that chance. It just depends on how you are interacting with each other now and what kind of vibe you are getting from him. Love is hard sometimes, eh?

Let me know what you think!


November 26, 2011 - 1:08pm

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