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By April 4, 2013 - 9:32am

My boyfriend and I have been trying to conceive but to no avail, he works abroad and comes home every 3 months for only 2weeks , he actually buys his plane ticket around the time when my period is over, am I doing it wrong?

By HERWriter Guide April 4, 2013 - 12:30pm

Hi Elizabeth

Yes, having him home when your period has just ended is a good idea, as long as he is with you for 10-14 days. Fertile times in a woman's cycle are usually days 10-20 with days 14-15 being the average.

If he has no plan to be with you permanently, then are you sure it's wise to have a baby with  the father not even in the country very much? This could be quite stressful and if you want a baby more than a partner, then you can always try a sperm bank. It's just a thought, as you'll be entering single-parenthood either way which is a lot to take on when you have another child. Make sure, at least, than child support will be forthcoming and that an agreement is in place.



April 4, 2013 - 12:30pm
By April 4, 2013 - 12:06pm

im 32 and yes its stressful with him being so far away and no he's not coming home permanently anytime soon, i already have a 12 year old from a previous relationship his dad passed away 3 years ago and now i met my guy and i really want to have another child at least before im 35, thanks for ur opinion, its truly appreciated :) oh one more thing when he does come home its usually around the time when i dont have my period, can i at least work on this? maybe let him come when im almost done or something?

April 4, 2013 - 12:06pm
By HERWriter Guide April 4, 2013 - 10:09am

Hi Elizabeth,

Thanks for your question!

Getting pregnant by having sex over two weeks, only every three months makes getting pregnant rather difficult.That means he's only home two months a year.

A healthy woman has about a 20% chance of getting pregnant every month and this is the same every month (your odds per month neither increase or decrease if you're young). If you are under age 35, you just have to give yourself a lot of time. Depending on how old you are and long this long distance goes on, your odds will decrease due to both those factors.

Is he coming home permanently soon? Obviously your odds will increase rapidly and your stress levels will go down. If you're stressed or feeling pressure every three months, this may hinder pregnancy too.



April 4, 2013 - 10:09am

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