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The Truth Behind Finding The Big “O”

By EmpowHER December 20, 2011 - 5:12pm

Every woman is looking to find the big “O” during sex. However, studies show only about one-third of women will actually climax during intercourse. 50 years ago, many women believed female orgasms were merely a myth produced by the media, but over the last couple of decades, research studies prove women can actually experience the same feelings of excitement as when a man reaches orgasm.

These days many women feel added pressure to climax during intercourse, but for most women it takes a combination of different sensations and a conscious effort to enjoy the moment. One of the most common misconceptions women have about achieving an orgasm is that it must be some sort of earth-shattering experience. Although women’s bodies produce the same euphoric sensations as men’s during climax, the way women and men respond to an orgasm is completely different. Not all women experience the feeling of their pelvic muscles contracting during intercourse; however, many will feel a peak of arousal after which they feel relaxed and satisfied.

Having an orgasm by another type of stimulation is a normal variation of female sexuality. In the past it was thought that only mature women could achieve orgasms through intercourse, but research dating back from the 1960s shows that an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way you achieve it, and it has nothing to do with a woman’s sexual maturity.

Women who have been able to achieve orgasms in the past, but can no longer do so, may be suffering from stress or side effects from medication or contraception. Some medications can alter a woman’s sex drive and decrease her ability to have an orgasm.

While there are many ways a partner can help a woman achieve stimulation, it’s a woman’s responsibility to understand her own sexual health and know what she needs to feel pleasure. Communication between partners is key to achieving the stimulation her body desires.

There are many ways a woman can achieve an orgasm during intercourse, but most importantly, you must relax. Overthinking can actually hinder your ability to achieve climax and leave you frustrated and unsatisfied.

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I have been able to orgasm with only two men in my life. My ex lover and my current boyfriend. both men are patient, unselfish lovers, and took their time to find ways to help me get a release.

February 4, 2012 - 11:30pm

Yes, i certainly agree dat communicatn durin intercourse is very helpful as well as health; d only problem is dat it kinda sound ackward to most people mayb bcos of how we'v been brought up coupled wit d society we r in...

December 30, 2011 - 1:07am
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Anonymous (reply to micav)

Dear micav,

I find it startling that you have difficulty communicating.

December 31, 2011 - 4:08am
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