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Want to Try Something New in the Bedroom? Tips to Start the Conversation with Your Partner

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Looking to change things up in the bedroom? Many couples turn to toys and other sexual wellness products to experiment with their sex lives. They can offer an increased sense of pleasure, help you get into the mood or help create a more intimate experience, but some women may feel a bit awkward or even embarrassed to bring it up to their significant other and experiment.

So, how do you start the conversation?

Here are 10 tips for talking with your partner about introducing a sexual wellness product into your relationship.

1) You need to be comfortable first.

Can you easily bring up this topic with your partner? If not, practice talking with a friend or counselor about it first. This may help you figure out how to bring the subject up and discuss the benefits it can have in your relationship.

2) Research.

Truly understanding sexual wellness products and what you want out of using one with your partner will give you confidence to help start the conversation. And, it can help you narrow down what you might like best.

To increase sexual desire you may be interested in Fiera™, a new option available to help get you in the mood for a more intimate connection and sexual experience with your partner.

This sexual arousal product is small, fast-acting and designed for “before-play.” It is hands-free so you can focus more on your sexual experience and your partner.

3) Choose the right time to talk.

It’s important for you and your partner to have reached a certain level of openness and trust – both inside and outside the bedroom – before starting this conversation. Talking about sexual wellness products may be a bit awkward for some. And partners may assume that they are used to replace bad performance, even though this is oftentimes quite the opposite of the truth. Be honest and open with your partner about why you want to try something new together.

Fiera™ for example uses light suction to gently attach to your clitoral region to enhance arousal and lubrication, getting you prepared and excited for sex together rather than something you would use on your own without your partner. Fiera is designed for women, but created with couples in mind to increase overall intimacy.

4) Carefully introduce the subject.

One easy way to bring it up is to send articles on sexual wellness products and their benefits to your partner. By doing this, you can a) measure their reaction and b) let the conversation start organically.

5) Dive into the conversation.

Questions are a good way to begin. Ask your partner if they have used anything similar in the past. Why or why not? Share your own experience if you have one, and what you liked best, with your partner.

6) Stress your partner’s skills.

Don’t hold back here. Highlight everything that your partner does well. Remind your partner that they give you so much more than a sex toy or product ever could, like being held and kissed.

7) Shop together.

Shopping in stores and online for something new to try in the bedroom can not only be fun, it can also reassure your partner that this is something the two of you are doing as a couple. Shopping allows you to see that there are numerous options.

8) Use it together.

Work together on finding how to use it best to enhance your sexual experience. Test different positioning and settings, and remember to be patient as you start introducing any new products into the bedroom.

9) Respect your partner's feelings.

Don’t overwhelm your partner. In the beginning, just bring out the product once in awhile. Help your partner understand that it can add to your sexual experience together, and won’t detract from it.

10) Don’t pressure your partner.

If, after everything, your partner is still hesitant, back off. There are other options to help build your intimacy that your partner may feel more comfortable with.

Openness and honesty are essential when introducing sexual wellness products and toys into your relationship. Work with your partner so that you both feel comfortable with the topics and the items. Learn together. The bottom line — have fun and do what is best for your relationship!

Learn more about Fiera and how your relationship can benefit from it here: www.fiera.com

Reviewed November 17, 2015
By Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith

Sponsored by: Fiera™

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