No sex or marriage question is too embarrassing because it’s time to ask EmpowHer’s sexuality expert Dr. Marty Klein anything.
“Dear Dr. Klein, I am 39 years old and I am a newlywed. My husband and I have only been married for a month and a half and he has already lost interest in me sexually. No matter what I do or don’t do, I just can’t turn him on. I once had a boyfriend who was impotent and he at least made some attempts at having sex. My husband doesn’t even try. When we go to bed he goes right to sleep.
A few nights ago while we were in bed, I was trying to arouse him, and he simply just moved my hand away and then turned over and went to sleep. I could understand if he had always been this way with me, but no, he hasn’t. He makes me feel utterly repulsive. Is there a medication I can have prescribed for me so that I don’t have the urge for sex, so that I have no problem with his lack of desire for me?”
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